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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Hot-Ad-0730 on 2023-06-26 17:34:17+00:00.
Let’s cut straight to the chase: I (31F) was invited to my SIL’s (25F) engagement party. At some point I told the (now ex) groom to be that he’s very open minded to marry SIL when she used to have an OF account and even used to be stalked by crazy users in the past. Well, apparently her fiance didn’t know about her OF account, so you can imagine all the drama that created between them. My SIL ended up crying and running away and my husband (28M) tried going after her, but his twin brother stopped him and told him that this whole situation is his fault for bringing that troublemaker (referring to me) to the party. I told him it’s not a surprise that he’s up for covering up someone’s past considering what’s in his and that made both him and their mother go off at me and my husband. We ended up leaving in order to get away from my husband’s crazy family, but he ended up blaming me for uncovering my SIL’s past to her fiance. I told him that if she would’ve been upfront with him from the start, then none of this would’ve happened, which finally silenced my husband.
Unfortunately his family wasn’t silenced and after my SIL’s fiance called off the wedding, they started blaming us (mainly me) for ruining her engagement party and relationship altogether. My husband wants me to apologize to her for what I said, but I obviously refused, just cause she comes from a family enabling bad actions that doesn’t make them right nor should they be further coddled.
AITA ?
….what the fuck? You ruined your husbands sisters engagement because you put your nose in where it doesn’t belong and you think there’s even a chance that you come out looking good in this scenario?
YTA. Hands down. You need to start handing out apologies like crazy, and hopefully your SIL doesn’t hate you for the rest of your life. I wouldn’t forgive you. That’s not AT ALL for you to be sharing with others. Especially not the way you did it, which obviously was TRYING to stir up shit.
Like what kind of rude ass shit is that? “You must be very open minded!” And then literally trying to scare the fiancé by saying your SIL has crazy stalkers? You think that’s okay to do to someone in your husbands family? My wife would never do something like that, and if she did it would cause major issues in our marriage.