I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I’m feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more “capable” and “logical” on me. That gender studies are “indoctrination.” I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that’s really what he thinks. It wouldn’t be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I’m grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into “fuck all men” mode, but I know it’s not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there’s feminist men, enbies, etc. We’re all just people and we’re not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I’m still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they’d like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y’all! I’ve been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I’ll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

  • @[email protected]
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    181 year ago

    The “win” is that I see much less if that kind of discourse on Lemmy.

    Sorry for you, OP

    • @TeaHands
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      81 year ago

      That’s true. It’s definitely not zero but I see it get called out 9 times out of 10. Good work lemmings!

    • @kofeOP
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      81 year ago

      Yeah, the replies here have been really heartwarming. I’m glad to be here:) thank you

    • @[email protected]
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      21 year ago

      Honestly, back on Reddit I also didn’t see much of this, at least not sorting by highest upvoted.

      • @captainlezbian
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        21 year ago

        It was more of a thing on Reddit back in the gamergate era. By 2017 it had faded to smaller communities