• Source: /r/AskReddit
  • Posted: Apr 9 2012
  • Author: concerneddad1965
  • Topic: I think my teenage son may have sodomized our dog. I’m not sure what to do. Help me Reddit.
  • Note: Turned out to be (thankfully) fake.
Part 1

ok, for obvious reasons this is a throwaway account.

So, I’m not even sure how to start here. The last couple of weeks my dog (7 year old lab) has been acting noticeably different. I guess I could describe it as “distant” and even depressed. He is normally an extremely outgoing and happy dog, very playful and energetic etc. But starting about 2 weeks ago he started acting very withdrawn and nervous around people, even his own family. At first I kind of brushed it off as feeling under the weather, but after about a week and a half I decided maybe he needed to see a vet.

I got him in yesterday and after an examination the vet told me that he believes the dog has been sodomized. His anus had slight damage in a way that was consistent with that sort of thing. He said he can’t really imagine that his injuries could have come about any other way. So already now I’m pretty upset and sort of freaking out. Who would do this sort of thing to a dog?

I thought about all of the people that had access to the dog and my back yard. Garderners crossed my mind, my neighbors, etc. The only people that live in the house are my wife, myself, and our teenaged son. I came home and thought about it for a while. I had this really ugly sinking feeling in my stomach about the possibilty that it could have been my son. I decided to look around his room.

I didn’t really know what I was expecting to find, and I didn’t really find anything in there that screamed guilty, until I decided to check his browser history. I found he had been on a beastiality forum recently and a site with pictures of that sort of thing. I felt like I was going to throw up.

Now I know that this isn’t definitive proof of anything, but it sure doesn’t look good. The more I think about it, the more I am convinced my son has been sodomizing our dog. I haven’t told my wife yet or done anything about it. I have NOT left him alone with the dog since. I am totally confused and upset and don’t really know how to proceed with this.

Reddit, please, please help!

TL;DR Vet says my dog has been sodomized, found some suggestive bestiality material on sons computer, suspecting my son sodomized family dog.

EDIT - Thank you for all your advice to those of you who are serious. I understand this seems like a joke to some of you but it’s not to me, so for those of you that gave real advice, thank you. I think I’m going to take your advice and confront him about it privately, without involving my wife. It is not going to be an easy conversation but it has to happen. My only worry is the possibility that he isn’t guilty of this and somebody else did it. I guess then we still need to talk about what I found on his computer anyways. Ugh. FML. Thank you for being there for me Reddit

EDIT 2 - Ok, my son just got home. I’m going to have the conversation with him when I can get a moment alone and I will come back and let you guys know what happened

EDIT 3 - Ok, just spoke to my son. Before I get into our talk, let me quickly say thank you all again for your incredible advice and support, there were a lot of really really helpful suggestions in here, and I took some of your advice. Anyways, our family had dinner and did our usual night time stuff. My wife and I watched TV, son was in his room after dinner like all teenagers are, and dog, obviously, was with me.

I waited for my wife to go to bed, which felt like forever because I was so nervous, but she finally did about an hour ago and I went into my sons room to have the talk. I basically said listen, I noticed the dog has been acting weird, I took him to the vet, I found out someone has sodomized him, any ideas what might have happened? I looked at my son and he seemed ever so slightly nervous but pretended to know nothing about it. I expected this, so I brought up the sites I found on his computer. Naturally, this made him pretty upset and he got really indignant at the thought that I snooped around on his computer. Fair enough, I get it. But I got him back to the point and tried to be as understanding and fatherly as I could and just told him that whatever happened I am not going to judge him and he’s not going to be punished I just need to know the truth.

After about 10-15 minutes of this he finally breaks down and admits that he put the handle of a hairbrush as well as fingers into the dog a few times during a day last week. He said he wasn’t trying to hurt him and he stopped when the dog at one point freaked out. He said he didn’t think he hurt it that bad and he was too embarrassed to tell us or do anything about it. I believed him in this, but he also didn’t give a very satisfactory answer as to why exactly he would do this in the first place. I have to admit, either way, I was glad on some level to hear that he wasn’t actually having sex with the dog.

So basically, we agreed that I wouldn’t tell his mom, but that we would find a reason to tell her that he needs to see a therapist for a bit. i know I told him I wouldn’t tell his mother, but the more I think about all of this the more I think I may eventually have to go back on that promise. As for now, the dog is staying with the family, and obviously I made him swear up and down that he will not touch the dog like that again under threat of severe consequences. It’s too early to tell if he feels remorse or is just humiliated. It’s hard to say. It was very uncomfortable for both of us, but especially my son. I’m sure we can all imagine.

Thank you all again so incredibly much for your support, advice, understanding, and love for both the dog and my son. I have to admit, some of you even made me laugh at a few things I didn’t want to. Thanks again Reddit.

EDIT 4 - Due to the outpouring of concern and help from you guys I will update in a week or so and let you know what’s happened. Today I located a therapist that specializes in teenagers, I made a preliminary appointment for my son to go in and talk to her. I disclosed to her some of the issues, without getting into too much detail. For now my son does not know this, but it will be a helpful for her to have some idea of what we’re dealing with. My dog is still not in the best of spirits, but seems to be making progress. I went for a walk with him today and he was more playful than he has been the past week. I’ve been trying to be extra good to him as well and the love seems to be helping slowly bring the happiness back into his eyes.

Can’t say I’m still not a little peeved about what happened, but I feel like to show my son that I am too upset might be damaging right now. I think we just need to find out why he thought this was ok. As for the brush handle, some of you bring up a good point. I should ask him to throw whichever brush that is away. For some reason, that didn’t even cross my mind. Yikes. Anyways, I’ll give you all an update on the situation in a week. Thanks again.

  • WintryOPMEnglish
    1•1 year ago
    Part 2

    Alright, well reddit helped me a lot last time, maybe you guys can do it again.

    Long story short, 2 months ago I took my dog Colby to the vet after he was acting weird. The vet determined the dog may have been sodomized. After a lot of thought, I checked the browser history on my sons computer and found he had been viewing pictures of bestiality and seemed to be active in a forum about it. I confronted him and he admitted to sodomizing our dog with the handle of a hairbrush and his fingers.

    After asking reddit for help, I decided to put him in therapy and not let my wife know about the issue and tell her he just wanted to talk to somebody professionally.

    Well this morning I caught my son in the backyard holding onto Colby’s genitals while playing tug of war with him. Granted this isn’t sodomization and the dog seemed to be ok, but my son was basically grabbing and massaging the dogs privates as he held him in place under the guise of a tug of war game.

    Obviously I stormed outside and grabbed him in anger and we had a VERY serious and angry talk. He had promised me to never treat the dog in any remotely inappropriate way after our last incident. I put him in his room for the rest of the day. My wife is still at work, and I do not know what to do. I am at my wits end. Apparently, therapy has not been working.

    Reddit? How do I deal with this? I think I have to tell my wife now, which is not exciting since she has been in the dark about the sodomizing incident for 2 months. I… am not sure how to deal with all of this.

    You guys really helped me last time, any advice is appreciated! Thank you!

    TL;DR - My son molested our dog Colby again, not sure what to do.

    UPDATE Ok, well that didn’t go so well. My wife got home not too long after I put this up. I told her pretty much right off the bat that I messed up pretty bad and that I found out 2 months ago that our son had admitted to me he sodomized the dog with a hairbrush handle and his fingers. I told her that this was why I had wanted him in therapy and that he wasn’t comfortable with her knowing and I made him a fatherly promise under the condition he never do anything like that again.

    Needless to say she was pretty shocked and upset. Then I told her what I saw today and she got even more upset. It went from a few minutes of anger to tears. She is pretty pissed off at me and pretty upset about our son and Colby, obviously. I feel like shit at this point for having kept her in the dark. She told me she felt very betrayed and after calling me some choice names and saying she was confused she grabbed her purse and just left the house. I have no idea where she went, but I didn’t try to stop her. She was very, very upset. I feel like the worst husband/father in the world right now.

    I went in to speak to my son and he was pretty unhappy too since he could hear everything (obviously was in no hurry to come out of his room for that). He isn’t very happy that I told his mom about today and the incident before but after speaking with him briefly I think he understands that it was necessary.

    So basically my family was torn apart today over a dog. I need a beer or something. As for re-housing the dog, I suspect we’ll probably have to do that, but there’s a lot we need to sort through first. I’m sure there is an uncomfortable family meeting in our future. Thanks for the advice and for being there reddit.

    UPDATE 2 Wow… front page. Thanks for the outpouring of support. I hope nobody I know is a redditor… didn’t quite expect this to get so big, hahaha. Well, anyways, my wife is still gone. I tried to call her on her cell just one time and she didn’t pick up, so I got the message. I’ve just been in the yard with Colby on the computer having a beer. This is crazy. I wish fatherhood/marriage came with a guidebook. I guess reddit is kind of close, right? Well except for the odd people saying “re-home the son” and all of those super… helpful… suggestions. I’ll keep you updated as the night goes on. Hopefully my wife actually does return at some point.

    As for my son, all he’s done is make a hotpocket and go back to his room. Basically just being a teenager in trouble.

    EDIT - Since a lot of you are curious, my son is 15 years old. I posted this in a comment in the original thread, I thought I had included it in the main post but I realize I did not. Hope that helps.

    Update 3 - Ok, well, my wife called me to say she is staying at her sisters house tonight to clear her head. She has calmed down a bit but said she doesn’t think she can handle all of this tonight. I said I understood and apologized again profusely for not telling her sooner. I tried to explain what another redditor mentioned about how the first incident was a weird male adolescent sexual thing and he was embarrassed and thought he could confide in me and trust me.

    She was pretty unmoved by that argument and thinks I should’ve told her. I guess i was wrong. When we got off the phone I said “I love you” and she just hung up. This is probably up there as my worst day in recent memory, at least since the day I found out my son sodomized my dog the first time. As for my son, I have seen no sign of him since he made his hotpocket, however for about 40 minutes now I’ve been hearing what I am guessing is ‘dubstep’ coming from his room. I don’t know. I’m too old to even want to know.

    Colby will sleep in my room tonight, and tomorrow hopefully the wife will be calm enough to discuss what to do with him. She loves that dog a lot, I am not sure how she is going to want to move forward with all of this. For my part, I can already think of 2 families we know that would probably be happy to take the Colbster.

    Jesus what a day. Thanks reddit.