• Source: /r/AskReddit
  • Posted: Apr 9 2012
  • Author: concerneddad1965
  • Topic: I think my teenage son may have sodomized our dog. I’m not sure what to do. Help me Reddit.
  • Note: Turned out to be (thankfully) fake.
Part 1

ok, for obvious reasons this is a throwaway account.

So, I’m not even sure how to start here. The last couple of weeks my dog (7 year old lab) has been acting noticeably different. I guess I could describe it as “distant” and even depressed. He is normally an extremely outgoing and happy dog, very playful and energetic etc. But starting about 2 weeks ago he started acting very withdrawn and nervous around people, even his own family. At first I kind of brushed it off as feeling under the weather, but after about a week and a half I decided maybe he needed to see a vet.

I got him in yesterday and after an examination the vet told me that he believes the dog has been sodomized. His anus had slight damage in a way that was consistent with that sort of thing. He said he can’t really imagine that his injuries could have come about any other way. So already now I’m pretty upset and sort of freaking out. Who would do this sort of thing to a dog?

I thought about all of the people that had access to the dog and my back yard. Garderners crossed my mind, my neighbors, etc. The only people that live in the house are my wife, myself, and our teenaged son. I came home and thought about it for a while. I had this really ugly sinking feeling in my stomach about the possibilty that it could have been my son. I decided to look around his room.

I didn’t really know what I was expecting to find, and I didn’t really find anything in there that screamed guilty, until I decided to check his browser history. I found he had been on a beastiality forum recently and a site with pictures of that sort of thing. I felt like I was going to throw up.

Now I know that this isn’t definitive proof of anything, but it sure doesn’t look good. The more I think about it, the more I am convinced my son has been sodomizing our dog. I haven’t told my wife yet or done anything about it. I have NOT left him alone with the dog since. I am totally confused and upset and don’t really know how to proceed with this.

Reddit, please, please help!

TL;DR Vet says my dog has been sodomized, found some suggestive bestiality material on sons computer, suspecting my son sodomized family dog.

EDIT - Thank you for all your advice to those of you who are serious. I understand this seems like a joke to some of you but it’s not to me, so for those of you that gave real advice, thank you. I think I’m going to take your advice and confront him about it privately, without involving my wife. It is not going to be an easy conversation but it has to happen. My only worry is the possibility that he isn’t guilty of this and somebody else did it. I guess then we still need to talk about what I found on his computer anyways. Ugh. FML. Thank you for being there for me Reddit

EDIT 2 - Ok, my son just got home. I’m going to have the conversation with him when I can get a moment alone and I will come back and let you guys know what happened

EDIT 3 - Ok, just spoke to my son. Before I get into our talk, let me quickly say thank you all again for your incredible advice and support, there were a lot of really really helpful suggestions in here, and I took some of your advice. Anyways, our family had dinner and did our usual night time stuff. My wife and I watched TV, son was in his room after dinner like all teenagers are, and dog, obviously, was with me.

I waited for my wife to go to bed, which felt like forever because I was so nervous, but she finally did about an hour ago and I went into my sons room to have the talk. I basically said listen, I noticed the dog has been acting weird, I took him to the vet, I found out someone has sodomized him, any ideas what might have happened? I looked at my son and he seemed ever so slightly nervous but pretended to know nothing about it. I expected this, so I brought up the sites I found on his computer. Naturally, this made him pretty upset and he got really indignant at the thought that I snooped around on his computer. Fair enough, I get it. But I got him back to the point and tried to be as understanding and fatherly as I could and just told him that whatever happened I am not going to judge him and he’s not going to be punished I just need to know the truth.

After about 10-15 minutes of this he finally breaks down and admits that he put the handle of a hairbrush as well as fingers into the dog a few times during a day last week. He said he wasn’t trying to hurt him and he stopped when the dog at one point freaked out. He said he didn’t think he hurt it that bad and he was too embarrassed to tell us or do anything about it. I believed him in this, but he also didn’t give a very satisfactory answer as to why exactly he would do this in the first place. I have to admit, either way, I was glad on some level to hear that he wasn’t actually having sex with the dog.

So basically, we agreed that I wouldn’t tell his mom, but that we would find a reason to tell her that he needs to see a therapist for a bit. i know I told him I wouldn’t tell his mother, but the more I think about all of this the more I think I may eventually have to go back on that promise. As for now, the dog is staying with the family, and obviously I made him swear up and down that he will not touch the dog like that again under threat of severe consequences. It’s too early to tell if he feels remorse or is just humiliated. It’s hard to say. It was very uncomfortable for both of us, but especially my son. I’m sure we can all imagine.

Thank you all again so incredibly much for your support, advice, understanding, and love for both the dog and my son. I have to admit, some of you even made me laugh at a few things I didn’t want to. Thanks again Reddit.

EDIT 4 - Due to the outpouring of concern and help from you guys I will update in a week or so and let you know what’s happened. Today I located a therapist that specializes in teenagers, I made a preliminary appointment for my son to go in and talk to her. I disclosed to her some of the issues, without getting into too much detail. For now my son does not know this, but it will be a helpful for her to have some idea of what we’re dealing with. My dog is still not in the best of spirits, but seems to be making progress. I went for a walk with him today and he was more playful than he has been the past week. I’ve been trying to be extra good to him as well and the love seems to be helping slowly bring the happiness back into his eyes.

Can’t say I’m still not a little peeved about what happened, but I feel like to show my son that I am too upset might be damaging right now. I think we just need to find out why he thought this was ok. As for the brush handle, some of you bring up a good point. I should ask him to throw whichever brush that is away. For some reason, that didn’t even cross my mind. Yikes. Anyways, I’ll give you all an update on the situation in a week. Thanks again.

  • WintryOPMEnglish
    1•1 year ago
    Part 3

    A lot of Redditors were very supportive and helpful with this delicate situation, and I received many letters offering to take in our dog Colby after the second incident, it was really touching to have so many people reach out.

    I have also gotten a lot of messages asking for an update on what has happened since the last post. Well, a hell of a lot has happened to my family since then, and none of it has been very good. Basically after hiding the first incident from my wife, I felt obligated to tell her about it when I caught my son sexually abusing Colby again. Turns out not telling her the first time around was probably the worst decision I have ever made.

    My wife did not take the news well at all. As I mentioned in my last post, she left the house to stay with her sister for a few days, and wouldn’t pick up my calls. The breach of trust and the fact that I hid something so serious from her really pissed her off. To be honest, our marriage has already been pretty rocky the last year or two, for reasons I’d prefer not to get into. So this was just one more bump in the road that our relationship really didn’t need.

    To be fair, I was only trying to be a good father to my son, and I thought I could keep the initial incident between him and I to protect him from further humiliation. It would have been ok if he had kept his word that he would not abuse the dog ever again, unfortunately he did not and I had to involve his mom. Admittedly, I should have just done that from the beginning.

    So after staying at her sisters house for a few days my wife came home and we got into several arguments over the next week or so about our son and what to do about this, and of course there was plenty of me being painted as the bad guy for not including her on a major parenting issue.

    I decided to take Reddits advice that we should start looking for a new home for Colby, since he obviously wasn’t going to be safe with us anymore. My wife did not like this idea, and after several more arguments I come to find out that she suspects our son never even abused the dog to begin with. She tells me that she has spoken to our son about it and he denied ever doing anything.

    So basically I had my son denying he ever sodomized the dog, and my wife now pissed off because she is hearing two conflicting stories from us. She even brought up in the heat of our argument that she thinks if anything I sodomized the dog, which as you can imagine made me absolutely furious.

    So to make a long story short, we did not resolve anything, and have only become more embittered with eachother. This, along with a few other marital issues, finally led to my wife asking for a trial separation about 3 weeks ago. My son has decided to live with her, and so I have moved out to a friends house temporarily while I try to figure out what we are going to do next.

    I know you guys are probably going to be pissed about this, but Colby is still living with my wife and son, I tried to take him with me but this only lead to more friction and infuriating jabs from my wife (“why so you can sodomize him again and blame it on your son you sick fuck” etc etc).

    This whole thing has just become a complete nightmare. I have tried to confront my son about denying what he did to his mom and he won’t even talk to me and has just started taking the stance that I’m crazy. I guess he thought he saw a way out of all of this and decided to just throw his dad under the bus. That is probably the most hurtful part of this entire ordeal, to be honest. I’m used to having my wife be a complete bitch to me at this point but the betrayal by my son who I was only trying to help is like a knife in my heart.

    That being said, I have to remind myself he is just a kid in an awkward situation, and try not to hold it against him. After all if my wife and I wind up with a divorce down the road he is going to be the only thing I love, so I am trying not to do irreparable damage to our relationship. I feel like I’ve done enough damage to this family. And all of this over a goddamn Labrador.

    I wish I could say my priority at this time was still on Colby’s safety, but I would be lying. My relationship with my family is in tatters and I don’t know what to do to fix it. Obviously I would still like to see Colby rehomed as well, but I feel like I need to focus on fixing my relationship with my wife and son so my life can go back to normal.

    So Reddit, I know this is kind of a unique situation but I’m sure theres got to be some of you out there who have had something similar happen to you. Any advice for a dad who is losing control?

    TL;DR - My wife has decided to separate from me, and she took the dog and my son. Feel like I’m losing control of my life and it’s all because I tried to help my son after he sexually abused our dog.