• @[email protected]
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    1311 months ago

    Lots of caveats to this so don’t just blindly go around asking people for a kiss or whatever, but for a date, especially the second half or end of the date, I think a good rule of thumb is to assume they want the kiss/hand hold/etc, BUT the critically important thing is you should just ask first and respect whatever answer they give. “Can I hold your hand?”, “Do you want to kiss?”, etc. If the women in your story and ops had done that, they almost certainly would’ve gotten what they wanted, but often people expect men to be the one to initiate, and no matter what gender you are it’s scary to do anyways.

    • DominusOfMegadeus
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      1511 months ago

      Sorry bro, but some women may want to be asked, and some women find it to be an immediate red flag weird thing to do demonstrating lack of confidence. You can’t win.

      • Kilgore Trout
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        1811 months ago

        You don’t want the ones who see red flags everywhere. This won’t change into the relationship.

      • @[email protected]
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        911 months ago

        I apologize for my gender. We really should’ve formed a monolithic hivemind so we can all want the same things by now.

      • @[email protected]
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        811 months ago

        Eh, some people don’t want to be asked, but also, if they can’t handle being asked (especially for the first kiss. Later kisses rarely need to be so explicit) then you’re probably dodging a bullet anyways.