• @force
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      11 months ago

      that’s literally just sexist

      women don’t exist to fuck you, a relationship has to have mutual understanding, if one person feels uncomfortable with how the other person treats them they shouldn’t just stay because “pussy”

      • @[email protected]
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        11 months ago

        I mean it is sexist, but I think it’s pretty reductive towards the OOP, in this case a man, to say that his discomfort is worth less than the fact that he’s allowed sex.

        Patriarchy hurts everyone.

      • @[email protected]
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        411 months ago

        I resonate with your comment. Not as a woman: as a man who isn’t young, I have been through many experiences. Unfortunately, my past includes being on both sides of this fence. I have had one experience where I was in a relationship “for the pussy”, and despite that being many years ago, it’s a great regret that follows me as I grow older.
        Everything was consensual and not forced, however all I did in the end was hurt them, and hurt myself further through the realisation that my choices were to blame for a relationship that was empty beyond belief, with any mutual respect dwindling heavily over the time we were together.

        Sex is nice, but it shouldn’t be the focus of any relationship. Living with regrets from a bad relationship isn’t something I wish for other people to experience, as it can be a horrible state of self-realisation as it’s not a trait of a good person (which I understand since). Respect what you truly and emotionally need deep down, and be comfortable with saying “no” to something that your heart tells you is a toxic thing to get into. Life is not long enough to be forcing dishonesty.

      • @Huschke
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        311 months ago

        Let he who hasn’t stayed in a relationship for longer than he should have because “pussy” cast the first stone.

        Joking aside, I get what you’re saying, but people don’t always make the best decisions and sex definitely influences them.

      • @feedum_sneedson
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        No.

        I EXIST TO FUCK WOMEN.

        Works best if you imagine me wearing a trenchcoat and trilby; perhaps some kind of pewter necklace.

        • @captainlezbian
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          411 months ago

          Not really. Lemmy is in my experience generally pro calling out misogyny.

        • @feedum_sneedson
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          311 months ago

          Guys, is it misogynistic to stay in a bad relationship because you’re at least having sex?

        • @[email protected]
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          111 months ago

          This is Lemmy. Pretty much everyone is new here.

          However, we are trying new things here!
          And it appears trope-laden, low-effort comments that assume everyone here is secretly sexist are something the majority of folks want to leave on the old site!