• @steeznson
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    229 months ago

    This actually was a choice that my partner and I discussed before we got married. I have lived a charmed life but my mental health still is not great despite that; hard to justify creating another version of myself whose life experiences are fairly likely to be worse than mine.

    Additionally my brother-in-law requires additional support. He’s an adult with learning difficulties and is unable to work. Eventually he’ll need to come and live with us once old relatives have passed away.

    My father was infertile but they elected to go for a sperm donor so that I would have the option to choose whether I wanted to have kids of my own. In theory they could have made me with IVF but I would have likely been infertile too. I hope I’m not letting him down but I remind myself that he was giving me the option to choose as opposed to some kind of mandate to procreate.