So basically I said I just wanted space for some time. She took this as that she’s never allowed to talk to me again.

Yesterday her lover(26M), which is also a friend of mine, I’ve known for a long time, came to talk to me and told me this. He also doesn’t want to do anything with me until I start being friends with her again, because he thinks he’s standing between us.

I tried doing activities with both of them together, but somehow it always makes me miserable to see her happy with someone else.

Next week is a festival where we planned to go together and I lined everything up to see how things are going or in which direction we can move from here. For info: Another girl is also going with us I think the dynamic would change a bit. There’s also a lot of other people I know at the festival.

I feel like I should just talk to 20F, but I don’t think I will tell her anything she want’s to hear. So I don’t know if this can improve the situation in any way.

  • @wolfylowEnglish
    22•1 year ago

    So let me get this straight - you fell in love with her, she rejected you, and you very understandably wanted to withdraw so you could start getting over your feelings?

    I know it’s hard, but by far the best thing you can do is keep the distance. Why on Earth would you go to a festival with the girl you love and her boyfriend? Why torment yourself like that?

    • @[email protected]OPEnglish
      2•1 year ago

      I don’t think the festival will be a problem. We’re staying in an apartement where I’ve got my own room. There’s another girl I don’t really know with us, but she seems friendly. Also there are about 30 people from my area at the festival. Some I know better, some less. So there will be a lot of time and opportunities to connect with other people. I plan not to focus too much on her.

      Also I booked the apartment back in January and it’s probably too late to ask other people if I can come with them, so I’m making the best of it.