Yeah this hurt. When I became homeless I ended up vanishing from everything. Had no Internet access or anything. Was just gone. Always checked in with people. Was there when needed and then I can’t contact anyone for a month. I was worried about my friends and worried they were worried about me and that I couldn’t tell them what was going on.
When I finally got access to the Internet to message people I realized no one had even noticed. No one messaged me asking where I was. No one checked in. No one did anything. I sent a couple people a message like “Hey hows it going?” and they’d respond with the usual. Really didn’t notice I was gone.
I ended up logging back out of all of it. Didn’t login again until a year later when I was in a homeless shelter trying to figure things out.
One person messaged me.
They were asking if I could share Netflix with them.
I deleted my accounts. Have a hard time trusting people and making friends noe not like childhood abuse from my mother made it easy. How do you believe people care when your parents don’t and when the people you loved didnt?
Happy Holidays. I’m spending mine in bed.
Hey if you want a friend, I’m here. Keep in mind I have crippling ADHD so when I vanish for a huge chunk of time it’s not because I don’t love you but because I’ve fallen for one of the classic blunders (I only think about you when I’m afk or working so I’m thinking about you but you don’t get a message.)
This is probably why all my long-term friends are neurologically atypical actually. We all have the same problem. And why one of my oldest friends and I catch up on a random weeknight at odd hours about once month when one of us sends the other a meme.
I have a friend I haven’t seen in over 10 years. He live less than an hour from me. I still try to remember to message him happy birthday on steam (but forget some years) and sometimes we’ll do some catching up.
I feel you there. I do appreciate it though. Don’t worry about the ADHD dropout. Doesn’t really hit me as much but I do feel you on the distraction of it all.