• @[email protected]
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    2291 year ago

    How the hell do you manage to get banned from dating apps?

    • chaogomu
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      1471 year ago

      There might be a link between the bans from dating apps and the “not been in a long-term relationship”…

      • FoundTheVegan
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        771 year ago

        Add another link to posting on 4chan. I’m sure they are just a SWELL.

        • reflex
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          Removed by mod

          • Herbal Gamer
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            91 year ago

            Sock With Exposed Lead Lining.

          • don
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            111 months ago

            Stagnant Water Enhanced Laser Level

        • @Soulg
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          31 year ago

          There are plenty of otherwise normal, functional people on that website.

          • @PM_me_your_doggo
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            161 year ago

            But they never post anything

            • @davidgro
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              21 year ago

              You mean they are lurking moar.

          • @[email protected]
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            31 year ago

            Nobody who is well adjusted would tolerate the virulent racism for very long.

            • @[email protected]
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              11 year ago

              That’s largely concentrated to certain boards. At least it was years ago when some of the interest boards were worth visiting.

          • @[email protected]
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            21 year ago

            For example, /tg/ is a haven of tranquility, compare to the cancerous cesspool that is /pol/. I’ve never needed any of the other boards, frankly.

    • AJMaxwell
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      751 year ago

      Usually being verbally abusive toward “females”

      • MxM111
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        71 year ago

        Why female is “in quotes”?

        • @[email protected]
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          441 year ago

          It’s a derogatory when used as a noun.

          Previous poster put it in quotes to show that OP probably used it that way.

          • AJMaxwell
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            21 year ago

            Yup

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          Who says “females” in that context? Usually a very specific subset of people who have “never been in a relationship” and make it other people’s problem. Like, regular person would just say “women”, hence OP quoting

        • @HeapOfDogs
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          231 year ago

          Ferengi

            • @[email protected]
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              21 year ago

              All the disgusting hyoo-mons in this thread sound like they’d allow their feemales to wear clothes.

        • @[email protected]
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          31 year ago

          Incels referring to women as females and likely a real chauvinistic attitude

          • @MindSkipperBro12
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            It’s a Brave New World and I proudly welcome it.

    • @OneOrTheOtherDontAskMe
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      371 year ago

      My wife’s best friend has been banned a couple times and is waiting to appeal her tinder ban again.

      Although often justifiable based on the ways these guys have acted/spoke to her, it’s usually because she’s super ruthless in her response. A guy got mad she wasn’t interested in just being a booth call after she said she’s there for dates too, said she was after a free meal (paying hadn’t come up yet, and she always pays for herself unless a guy insists) and so she tore into him. And she’s brutal. Another had ghosted her after rescheduling on the date twice and saying stuff came up and that he’s busy (days after the fact, no check in or nothing) and so she told him that’s some horse shit and that he’s a little bitch that needs to get his life in order if he’s gonna stand somebody up twice after begging for a second chance.

      She definitely could be nicer sometimes, but from what I’ve read from her it’s no different than how I see a lot of dudes talk on there, I think those guys just got their feelings hurt more than standard tinder girls do.

      • @Fosheze
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        351 year ago

        So someone who can’t control their temper got banned. The system works.

        • Illecors
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          I don’t see where the temper is lost there. I can say your reading comprehension is non-existant at best, or you simply can’t read at worst; none of that would be uncontrolled temper. It is very much pointing things out without sugarcoating.

          • @Fosheze
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            201 year ago

            and so she tore into him. And she’s brutal.

            If you’re “tearing into” people on a dating app then you have no business being on dating apps. I’ve definitely been ghosted and shit talked on dating apps and I haven’t ever snapped at someone over it. If you’re not mature enough to just block (and report if applicable) and move on then you should not be on dating apps. “Tearing into” people over dating app BS tells me that this is someone who can’t control their temper.

            • @[email protected]
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              Yeah it’s a bit amusing because for most guys this is just the default dating app experience. After wading through six layers of bots and catfish you finally match a real person who isn’t outwardly insane or like missing three limbs, and then they just unmatch an hour before the date with no explanation.

            • @arin
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              This is also from the biased viewpoint from the sister’s best friend, a lot worse objectively

          • @[email protected]
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            161 year ago

            I don’t know man, I think temper is having the self control to consider your words BEFORE they fall out of your mouth, modifying it to take into account the circumstance and the recipient and all that, and THEN saying it.

            In your example it would depend if your friend was being mean in the heat of the moment, or deliberately deciding to be so brutal. Either way, your friend doesn’t sound like a very nice person to be around.

            • Illecors
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              81 year ago

              Oh, it’s not my friend. I’m just a lemmy passer by :)

              All I’m saying is - being an asshole does not have a prerequisite of losing your temper. On top of that - some people ask for it.

              In OP’s example the other side is wasting time. That is one thing I do not tolerate.

              As to people not being nice - what about the time waster? Is he nice? Is it nice? I feel like people are sticking to words too much and actions too little.

              • @[email protected]
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                Well, being an asshole doesn’t mean you lost your temper, no, but it does mean you’re an asshole, which might be worse. I’d rather be around someone who’s only an ass when they’re upset vs all the time. From the OP, would I personally have banned her, no probably not, but we also don’t know what words were actually spoken from either side. My guess is that it was a bit spicier than portrayed if she’s been banned twice

      • @arin
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        21 year ago

        I can see why she’s single LMAO

      • @Fosheze
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        11 year ago

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    • @Clbull
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      I used to go to school with a lady that was perma banned from Tinder last year. My guess is she replied to creepy/perverted messages with enough hostility that they yeeted her straight off the platform.

      • Buglefingers
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        A friend of mine said she got banned because she shared a link. It was a link to some gif or something. I almost got banned because I had a picture of myself as a kid on there and apparently people felt the need to report me over that

    • @[email protected]
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      51 year ago

      In all honesty I’ve gotten banned from a couple. Turns out they don’t usually take account security super seriously. Stop using it for a bit, and suddenly it’s sending out obvious scam bait messages lol

    • @CurlyMoustache
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      21 year ago

      M’lady

    • @[email protected]
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      21 year ago

      You can also get banned from dating apps for not using them the way the app wants you to. For example not messaging people back or not swiping right enough on tinder.

      • @Clbull
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        11 year ago

        Source?

    • @[email protected]
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      21 year ago

      I’ve literally been asking that question. A lot of people never get to know why they’re banned.

      Match Group owns the biggest ones, and sometimes people seem to get banned from all of them at once.

      But Google Play Store also disallows installing dating apps for some people. Very unclear why, because there’s no official word on them doing it.

      Maybe it’s for legitimate reasons, but given these companies dominance, I find it disconcerning.