Hey everyone,
I [28F] need some advice on handling anxiety when job hunting.
Almost a week ago I finished school and I’m once again without work. I’ve been job hunting about 40-50% of my adult life and it has taken a huge toll on my mental health to the point where I’m barely able to apply for jobs anymore. I have gotten a few warnings over the years due to not applying to enough jobs. ( I live in Sweden btw )
I have tried taking breaks.
I have tried waiting for the anxiety to pass.
I have asked so many for advice but it’s like they all give the same default answer. If their advice where enough, I would be a pro at job hunting.
I did get an autism diagnosis a few years back and I do feel better about myself, more confident and understanding of how I work so I think this time around will be different, but it’s like the old anxiety still hangs around and I don’t know how to get rid of it.
Please if you have any advice, I’d love to hear it.
Wow that sounds like a big realization.
Does “applied for work only as a housekeeping step” mean you applied to jobs because you’re forced to? We have the same in Sweden, if I want any income at all I have to apply to at least 6 jobs every month.
I think my anxiety with this boils down to two things: How perfect and unique every application “has” to be and also the bureaucracy itself.
I really hate stepping on toes but I guess that’s part of life, more or less.
I have also recently realized how important networking is. I’m putting much more energy into trying to connect to people around me, adding them on LinkedIn, and stuff like that. During school we had a discord server for our class and I’m thinking about letting the classes “below” us in as well, (we were first) so we can create a network with a base on the same education. I think I’ll have to coordinate that with the school, I should send them a mail soon.
I also want to be a part of a kind of meetup thing were we host small events once or twice a month but I’ve never done something like that before and I don’t even know where to begin 😅
Those are typically the rules for unemployment/self-employment in the States. Since I haven’t been “officially” employed for well over 5 years, this isn’t the case for me. If work doesn’t come in, it doesn’t come in–I don’t have the trappings that come with having a job.
For me I was talking about when each job has a “process.” Step 1 is put in the job application. Not anymore (for me–if I had to fulfill a job app quota that would be another matter)! Step 1 would be initially contacting someone. Putting in the job app would just be for HR to make me official.
oooh I see. Now I understand! Thanks!