With a perspective on both sides, I have come to realize that while I hate waiting for others to finish what they say, I even more so hate being wrongfully summarized.
It is a very large part of my current relationship that we constantly work on, both being ADHD, and it has taught me how impatient I have been myself in regards to my own ADHD. When we try to “cut to the chase”, we take away agency from the other person. It’s quite hard to explain because it is context sensitive, but just try to be patient with people. Make it a personal mental game to guess what they are saying, but at least let them have the independence to say it themselves
Only time I make people “Cut to the chase” is when they want to order me to do something or want a favour.
I don’t need a life story or context. Just tell me what you need and I’ll give you a yes or no on if it can be done. The faster I have the relevant information, the quicker I can get starting on the request
With a perspective on both sides, I have come to realize that while I hate waiting for others to finish what they say, I even more so hate being wrongfully summarized.
It is a very large part of my current relationship that we constantly work on, both being ADHD, and it has taught me how impatient I have been myself in regards to my own ADHD. When we try to “cut to the chase”, we take away agency from the other person. It’s quite hard to explain because it is context sensitive, but just try to be patient with people. Make it a personal mental game to guess what they are saying, but at least let them have the independence to say it themselves
Only time I make people “Cut to the chase” is when they want to order me to do something or want a favour.
I don’t need a life story or context. Just tell me what you need and I’ll give you a yes or no on if it can be done. The faster I have the relevant information, the quicker I can get starting on the request