A month ago I found out that my (30’s ftm) live-in boyfriend of 3 years (30’s m) was sexting with various guys and making plans to meet up. We fought, made up, and got into therapy. Things are slowly healing.
Today I found out that an old friend of his that he used to sext with before our relationship still sends him nudes regularly on snapchat. I found out because my bf had saved a bunch of them. My bf says that he never responds to them and so he didn’t think it was an issue. I disagree - If anyone I knew irl ever sent me nudes I would immediately delete it, ask them not to send more, and tell my bf about it.
My question is, was his lack of action yet another instance of cheating?
It may not be cheating, but it is still inappropriate. It doesn’t have to be cheating to be a problem. And I’m not sure I believe your bf when he says he doesn’t respond. Why would the ex keep sending him nudes regularly if the ex wasn’t getting any response? In my experience, once a cheater always a cheater.