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Research says involuntary celibate men make “fundamental errors” about what women want in a partner.
Research says involuntary celibate men make “fundamental errors” about what women want in a partner.
I think I know where this argument is coming from, but it’s a gross misrepresentation of what was actually said. Neither of your links support that anyone thinks this is the case. In fact, from the very conservative one, even without having access to the full article, they very explicitly note, after having said that only 6% of college women would date a trump supporter “While people are free to discriminate however they wish in dating, this attitude bleeds into problematic spheres such as hiring and social toleration.” It’s clear that they are trying to make the argument that this dating bias is an indication of a deeper bias. It’s still dumb, but I’ve yet to hear anyone of merit actually argue “liberal women will need to compromise for the good of the demographics of the country, they’ll need to date conservatives of course!”
well if you only need evidence to shut up, then:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/2023/11/22/marriage-polarization-dating-trump/
https://fair.org/home/wapo-tells-women-if-you-want-marriage-compromise-with-misogyny/
is it unrealistic? sure is, the entire premise is facile - and mostly fabricated as that second link points out. It’s the fact that conservatives took to their opeds to decry the ‘discrimination’ that makes me sick. lilly white rich misogynists’ don’t need affirmative action dating programs.
That opinion piece you link to mainly makes the argument that it’s good for the individual as “on the whole, while politically mixed couples report somewhat lower levels of satisfaction than same-party couples, they are still likely to be happier than those who remain single.”’ To be fair, in passing, it also mentions it’s good for society.
Of course, it also clearly notes that “marriage isn’t for everyone. Nor is staying in a physically or emotionally abusive marriage ever the right choice.” So this whole claim that they are saying women should “compromise with misogyny” is completely untrue. It’s basically pointing out what should be obvious to everyone: who a person votes for does not tell the whole story about them. Granted, don’t get me wrong, voting for Trump really makes me raise an eyebrow, but I’m very liberal and work in a very mixed field and know plenty of people who voted for Trump and they are all good people. These are all people I spend a lot of time with and while I would vehemently disagree with them on politics and policy, I can also see that they are decent people. While I am lucky that my wife and I align very well, including politically, I think assuming that I could never have a fulfilling love life with someone who voted for Trump seems pretty narrow-minded.