The medication is a blood thinner, the patient is a competent adult not in delirium, A&OX4. There are 2 ways to see this:

Manager’s and a group of doctor’s POV: you are a nurse and it’s your job and duty to do that. Plus, we know better than him what’s good for him. These people have built their identity around working in healthcare and to them this means I have to stay in the room and make sure the patient takes the medication.

My POV: nursing is not a calling but a job. What my manager and these doctors think is stupid:

  • the patient is a competent adult not in delirium, A&OX4. He’s old enough to know what happens if he doesn’t take the medication because we have told him a number of times already. I’m not his father and I’m not ready to treat a competent adult like a child.

  • I have other patients and I’m not going to waste my time watching a patient silently until he decides to take the medication. I’m charting that I left the medication next to him and told him he needs it and why and that I have other patients to take care of.

  • It is stupid to watch a person while doing nothing when I should be working with my other patients. It’s also invasive as f*ck.

I see it like this: my manager and this group of doctors are not ready to respect a person’s autonomy whereas I’m not ready to ignore this same autonomy, even if it means a negative outcome. Respecting a consenting adult’s autonomy means respecting his bad choices as well. I feel this group of doctors and my manager are not ready to respect any patient’s autonomy.

At this moment, this is a hill I’m willing to die on. AITA?

ETA: I wrote about a group of doctors, because there are other doctors that don’t give me hard time if a patient refuses his medication, they simply chart it and move on. I like working with doctors like this because I feel they don’t judge and respect the patient’s autonomy as well.

  • FaceDeer
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    My POV: nursing is not a calling but a job.

    Well, if you think of it that way and your bosses are telling you to do a certain thing, you should do that thing. If you’re not doing the thing your bosses are telling you to do then maybe you’re not doing your job.

    Sorry if that’s not what you wanted to hear, but I don’t see what other reasonable interpretation there is here.

    • HopingForBetter
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      I mean, I kind of agree here.

      I’d go full chaotic lawful if you’re mentality is “not a calling”.

      Follow the rules and directives as given.

      It also sounds like you are on the way out of nursing. If you’re not passionate about it, the job will eat you alive without a second thought and you’re going to start seeing more and more things that irk you until you leave.

      I’m also in the process of switching out of a “selfless calling” to what I hope is a fulfilling career.

      Good luck with your next steps, whatever they may be.

    • @Bahalex
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      The big bosses aren’t medical staff, they’re calling is not patient care, it’s profit.

      What op is experiencing is delusion in the system and burnout.

      OP is right. Document, cya, and move on.

      All these downvotes and replies seem to be from people who want to think a hospital is altruistic place of healing. Unfortunately it’s an end stage capitalism hellscape that chews up and spits out most people who give a damn.

      • @CrackaAssCracka
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        Oof this is definitely wrong. A blood thinner is one of the most important things whether a patient is taking or not. It’s the nurses job to let the doctor know whether the patient is compliant not only for medical reasons but for documentation. That’s outside the argument about profit in healthcare in US, that’s basic medicine. What if that patient falls and hits their head? Do we need to know if they’re on s blood thinner? What if they’re hemoglobin starts dropping? What if they need a procedure? What tif their platelets start dropping? Etc, etc, etc.

        Don’t be a dick and not do your job, that makes your coworkers miserable and puts people in danger especially in medicine. I agree with burlit being and issue and chronic understaffing but be an adult and quit or move positions if you don’t like it.