I don’t mind answering, perhaps it can help someone else in a similar situation before they get into the same situation as me.
I matured late, combine that with having trouble with interpreting other people’s emotions I wasn’t interested until I was in my mid twenties.
At that time I worked 12h alternating day/night shifts on an irregular schedule, and was depressed.
After working that job for four and a half years, I got a new job with normal office hours and a much better location, but by then I had become overweight, balding and was feeling lost in regards to persuing a relationship.
Now, seven years later I am 37, and while I may be great working with users and helping them with the office IT systems, I am still overweight and very unsure of myself with regards to relationships, especially sex, I have zero experience on that subject, and I do wonder if I would be able to find a woman who would have the patience with me learning in that department.
I am not angry, I don’t blame anyone for this situation, and I can deal with the lonelyness, I don’t lead a bad life, I try to work on myself, I am working myself up to swimming 1km five times a week get in better shape, I have hobbies, I enjoy photography (nature, planespotting, transportation and general infrastructure)
I would like to meet someone, but I am able to deal with being alone.
Question if you don’t mind, did you just never have the opportunity or you don’t want to, religion or something?
Also have you ever considered a sex worker just to get it over with?
I don’t mind answering, perhaps it can help someone else in a similar situation before they get into the same situation as me.
I matured late, combine that with having trouble with interpreting other people’s emotions I wasn’t interested until I was in my mid twenties.
At that time I worked 12h alternating day/night shifts on an irregular schedule, and was depressed.
After working that job for four and a half years, I got a new job with normal office hours and a much better location, but by then I had become overweight, balding and was feeling lost in regards to persuing a relationship.
Now, seven years later I am 37, and while I may be great working with users and helping them with the office IT systems, I am still overweight and very unsure of myself with regards to relationships, especially sex, I have zero experience on that subject, and I do wonder if I would be able to find a woman who would have the patience with me learning in that department.
I am not angry, I don’t blame anyone for this situation, and I can deal with the lonelyness, I don’t lead a bad life, I try to work on myself, I am working myself up to swimming 1km five times a week get in better shape, I have hobbies, I enjoy photography (nature, planespotting, transportation and general infrastructure)
I would like to meet someone, but I am able to deal with being alone.
You’re the type of guy that’s going to flourish in their 40s. Good times ahead.
Thank you, thst is very kind of you to say!
Thank you for sharing!