That’s a great idea. I bet I don’t remember it.

Birthday cards too…

My shitty memory is probably somewhat attributable to object permanence related issues with ADHD. If something is out of sight, it can cease to exist for me.

I have tried this, and wound up with random presents just hidden around my house.

personally I just dont do these events.

that doesnt mean no gifts, but they usually come in the form of „hey I saw X and thought you might like it, have fun“

or „that thing Im leaning you? its yours, keep it“