I have to feel something for the person. That’s #1. And by that I mean talk and a connection built on shared interests and values. I’ll set aside personal preferences for how she looks if we hit it off as people. Honestly! How she looks matters less to me than how we click.

I’ve also been in vanilla relationships with women who knocked my socks off. I tend to like smart, self-assured, and driven. If I respect her, I’m gonna be interested. But I do like a kink dynamic. So that factors in too.

About faces and eyes, they’re the most emotionally expressive parts of our bodies. You can learn so much about a person just from their expression in the moment. More even than just what they say, because if what they say is at odds with their expression… there might be some deception going on. So yeah, love faces.

I used to chase hotties in my youth and after a few tumultuous relationships with women chosen for their looks over compatibility, I kinda learned a valuable lesson the hard way. 🤪