Hi c/BDSM community!
Because the prior mods were inaccessible and unresponsive for months on end, admins have decided to appoint a new moderator. That would be me. I’m going to sticky this post for a while for community members to comment about what direction they’d like for this community. But I’d like to make some suggestions here too.
BDSM is as generic a term for all-encompassing kink as one gets. It’s a general term. A place where an interactive community should naturally form. So, while I support posting porn here, I’d like to also suggest an openness to community based material. That’s why I posted a blog entry by @[email protected] yesterday about her subby side enjoying ‘good girl’ praise. I think this community could do with more of that kind of material.
Along with that, I want to talk about c/BDSM becoming a true safe space for women, trans persons, and subs of all sorts. We cannot have a general kink community forum without kinksters. And we cannot encourage kinky subs to contribute if we let a slim minority of assholes in the community mistreat them.
Anyone who exposes themselves emotionally or physically will have the mod team’s 100% support. No kink shaming, no body shaming, no cruelty allowed. Period. That goes for male, female, and nonbinary; subs and Dom(mes).
Along with that, I’d like to offer mod positions, or some kind of community guidance role as wished, to women (Domme or sub) so they feel they have real input about how this place is run.
I mean, a male dominated BDSM community is plain at odds with basic kinkster ethics.
This doesn’t mean I envision c/BDSM to become LemmyNSFW’s c/subsanctuary. As a Dom, I really shouldn’t be involved in a community like that. But what it does mean is that subs of all sorts should feel safe and welcome to contribute here.
Opinions? Please feel free to express yourselves. Even if you disagree. I’m listening.
ADDENDUM:
To clarify, by seeking women’s, trans, and sub voices in how the BDSM community is run, I do not mean to imply this should therefore exclude male voices. This is not a zero sum game.
ADDENDUM TWO
I’m not sure how I feel about this being my first post on any Lemmy platform, but I’ll weigh in. (male masochist)
Reddit’s r/BDSMcommunity is a good resource. I would love to see a federated equivalent to that where there is lots of text-based discussion. The porn is nice too, but (maybe this is just a propagation problem) I’m not seeing any responses to posts in c/BDSM. People drop an image or a short article, and then something else pops up. It could be that there aren’t many users, but something like 2000 people are subscribed to this, so idk.
I’d love to share my thoughts and experiences in a community like this, assuming things are working properly on a technical level and there are friendly people to talk to. You’ve already got 3 moderators, so it seems like things are moving. I wish everyone the best in keeping this going.
It’s hard to say what you’re seeing comment wise from this end. Federation sometimes leaves strange holes in a comment thread. It’s not perfect.
That said, this community was essentially dead without mod support and little posting. It’s been just days since the transition. I expect it will take time to build a thriving interactive community.
We’d love to read your thoughts. Whatever you’re willing to share. Whether by post or comment. Thank you for joining!
Thank you for your prompt and informative reply, and for volunteering your time to do this. I’m not sure of what content I could contribute that isn’t venting or rambling about this or that, as my recent experiences in the BDSM community have been limited to rural social gatherings. It’s good to know that there are people in this federated board though.
You’re in the community there and now here. We welcome you.