A follow up from my older asklemmy post, saying goodbye to a teacher who helped me a lot through my stuff, was thinking maybe chocolate, but one of the dudes said that it’s not a very good idea, I was thinking maybe a perfume/cologne? What do you guys suggest? She is in probably in her early 20s if it helps, and I am in senior high, damn this is getting weirder and weirder, I just want to run away lol
Coffee or tea
Suggestions here getting weirder and weirder ಠ_ಠ
Bruh, coffee or tea is way better and more appropriate than perfume. Think about it, if you gift a set of nice teabags, it’s a nice pick-me-up for your teacher to enjoy between classes
Perfume definitely seems worse, I have actually given some to my male teachers when I was younger and dumber lol so I thought this would work, coffee/tea seems kinda weird tbh, but I frankly have no idea anymore 🤷🏼♂️
I’m telling you man. Homemade cookies.
I gotta then learn how to make great cookies within a week ¯_(ツ)_/¯, I am considering 3 options rn
Gonna think about this tmrw, I am tired AF RN, finals approaching and it somewhat sucks
Bro, lose the chocolate. It will be your downfall.
The hassle is what makes it a good gift. Just sayin. Worry about finals more than stressing about what to get her. 🙂
Coffee and tea are so much more normal than perfume or chocolate that I can’t even. I’ve gotten coffee from a coworker before, and appreciated it. I could imagine giving tea to one if I knew they liked that. It’s safe, professional, and a crowd pleaser.
I wouldn’t even hazard a gift of perfume to my wife without some careful research first—too many ways it can be construed as “you smell” unless there is some sort of precedent such as knowing what she already wears.
This post has been gold. Thanks for sharing your struggles with us.
I have a feeling that I am even worse than ‘naive’ when it comes to this sort of stuff, thank god I decided to ask here before doing something stupid, but then again there was no other option anyway
A basic rule for professional gifts is to avoid anything that goes on the body, or anything with an effect that could be construed as “sensual”. By sensual I mean overly enticing to the senses—such as chocolate, perfume, or silk. It implies that you are seeking to make their body feel something, and as you get older, that is often equated with eroticism. Looking at commercials for the product helps too—chocolate commercials equate chocolate with sex almost every time.
People can be picky about food, or may have intolerances, so that is risky. Coffee and tea are associated with productivity, which is why they are professional to give.
If you have any female friends, they can be a helpful guide when trying to navigate how another woman might react to something. Good luck soldier! It’s hard out there.