I based my IWNDWYT in lifting and eating healthier, and for a few months it worked, but around a month ago some things happened that made it impossible… And I’ve been failing since. Not drinking was just part of the package, so it’s completely tied with those things that I still can’t do, but I don’t know, it feels like it wasn’t that hard to stop and suddenly it is. And it’s not like I’m a horrible person when I drink… But I should do better, be better… I don’t know, maybe I’m just a hypocrite, talking to myself, typing to the void of the internet while having a beer and thinking that I shouldn’t… but I whish I didn’t like drinking and wasn’t doing it right now…
One of the best tool I got from therapy was learning HALT. Hungry Angry Lonely Tired. These are all triggers and being in one or more of these states is often at the root of wanting to drink. For me, StopDrinking was a good way to head off the Lonely part of that lovely barber shop quartet. Just having the knowledge that HALT is a thing and stopping for a little introspection to see if I was under any of those states went a long way to helping me in the first year of my sobriety.
Hope this helps. You can do this. IWNDWYT.
Wow, first time I hear about that but I can see how those things can trigger it, and TBH today I was all four. I’m gonna keep an eye at it for a few days, and then I’ll try again even if I can’t do anything about the other things going on. Maybe this time, when I’m sober again, I’ll find the way once more. Thanks!