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higgsboshark The thing about knitting is it’s much harder to fear the existential futility of all your actions while you’re doing it LIke ok, sure, sometimes it’s hard to believe you’ve made any positive impact on the wortd. But It’s pretty easy to believe you’ve made a sock. Look at it. There it is. Put it on, now your foot’s warm Checkmate, nihilism.
cheskamouse This is a powerful positive message.
pluckyredhead I’m literally reading a book right now (Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski) that says this is scientiically sound.
There have been studies done on rats and dogs where they develop learned helplessness in the animals by giving them impossible tasks. Eventually the animals stop trying, even when the task stops being impossible. (.e. put a rat in a maze with cheese it can’t get to until it develops learned helplessness, then put the cheese somewhere it can get to it and it won’t even try ) But once they show the animals they CAN do something - i.e. physicaly moving the rat to the cheese-the learned helplessness goes away.
No one can move you to your cheese for you, but the book says DOING something - which they define as “anything that isn’t nothing” can help. Make a food. Work in the garden. Clean a thing Do a favor for a fiend. Call your elected officials.
Knit a sock.
If you feel overwhelmed by existential despair, do something. It doesn’t have to be big It just has to be anything that isn’t nothing.
That does explain why working and then being denied any kind of reward for completing it sucks so bad. “Yes, two years of stressful work and overtime, but it’s done and it’s marv-” - “That’s great, here’s the next one.”
My wife knits and sews. When she is done with one project, she starts another.
Yes, naturally you start the next one, but you don’t stop before the last toe and start on a scarf while someone else patches a finger from a glove onto the almost finished sock. You finish the sock, try it on, admire the pattern for a minute and then move on.