I just found out from my wife that if I continue to explore my non-binary identity outside of the confines of our house, she’s going to end up leaving me. Talk about a lose-lose scenario, fuck me. I really don’t want to hear the “you’re better off without her if she can’t be accepting” line of thinking. I get where you’d be going with that, but there’s a lot more going on beyond this wherein I need her.
My friend, I feel for you. This is a very difficult situation. However, at the core of it is a decision you have to make, but only you can make it.
Is your partner more important to you than your identity?
That’s exactly the issue at hand. Plus all of the stigma and questions from family and friends if the split happens, which I’m by no means capable of dealing with.
Everything seems impossible until you do it. Don’t sell yourself short, or you’ll always be dependent on someone – instead of just wanting to be around someone. You may want to look into attachment styles. Good luck.
Yeah, that’s one of those things that I know in my head, but can’t really internalize.