• @weariedfae
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    8 months ago

    No shade intended but by any chance are you Gen Z or younger?

    If so, there’s some ingrained toxic social more context you might not understand because you grew up in a better society than we did.

    But if you’re genuinely asking…

    • Anything that acknowledges women exist? Gay
    • Anything that recognizes men in relation to others instead of as the default? Believe it or not, gay
    • Anything that involves sharing? Gay
    • Pink? Gay
    • Blue? Also gay
    • Pink and blue? Liberace
    • Diagonal lines? Gay
    • The male/female Mars/Venus signs? Gay
    • The Venus sign on a blue background? Lesbian
    • Mars sign on a pink background? Flaming gay
    • Two men standing near each other? friends of Dorothy
    • Two men holding a flag together? Gay
    • The way the one guy is pinching the corner? Super fucking gay
    • Wearing a teal shirt? Gay
    • Wearing a yellow tie? Gay

    I could keep going but I think you might get the picture.

    Edit: formatting

    • @[email protected]
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      158 months ago

      I still have relatives that say “ugh that’s gay” to mean “I don’t like that”.

      I don’t speak to these relatives anymore.

      • @TexasDrunk
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        108 months ago

        It took me years to break that habit. I also worked really hard not to use the r word to mean I think something is fucking stupid.

        It was common to use both of those when I was a kid. It didn’t occur to me at the time that it might hurt someone (again, stupid kid). I’ve still caught myself using the r word on a rare occasion but I can keep trying.

        • Kaity
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          8 months ago

          I used to say it, cause it was my environment in a very lgbtphobic area around lgbtphobic people to fit in, stopped saying it cause I don’t want to spread hate, and started using it again, cause it is my environment in a very gay friend group and gay girlfriend cause it feels funny and good to reclaim it.

          • @TexasDrunk
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            38 months ago

            I get exactly what you’re saying. I’m a hetero dude but I’m around a lot of LGBTQ folks, many of whom are my friends. If something is literally homosexual (like my friend kissing her girlfriend or someone wearing a T-shirt with a homosexual themed graphic) I’ll still say “That’s gay!” There’s at least a couple of people who use the phrase to mean that certain things are awesome.

            • Kaity
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              38 months ago

              Exactly! We also like to poke fun at it ever being a “bad” thing. One of our running gags with each other, my partner and I, is to respond to something/event by saying “I think I might be gay” and the other one of us will feign horror.

    • @[email protected]
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      38 months ago

      Nope. 67 and doing my best since high school to be inclusive in my thinking.

      I guess I just don’t get how anyone other than a toxic fuck or at least a thoughtless stereotyper could say that most of what you point out of indicates gayness.

      Someone else went through a “symbolic analysis” that helps me see some of it.

      • @Syrc
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        28 months ago

        a toxic fuck or at least a thoughtless stereotyper

        That’s like everyone back when I was in school, me included.

        • @[email protected]
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          28 months ago

          Yeah, point taken. The toxic fuckery I saw and experienced and probably propogated in school is likely why I’ve put in effort to be better.