• Call me Lenny/LeniM
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    1110 months ago

    Those I share a space with typically conflict with each other, it’s not like school where they would go at me, so I tend to not be in the know. The only exception is one tried getting back at the others by using me as a bargaining chip. As in he kept me at his house for 2 days.

    • @[email protected]
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      2010 months ago

      I mean, I was all, ok juicy work drama, juicy work drama. Then I got to the last sentence, I think that goes beyond work drama.

      • @Cryophilia
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        910 months ago

        I checked out at “it’s not like school” but you got me to go back and read, yikes

        • Call me Lenny/LeniM
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          310 months ago

          That moment when I’m disqualified from a venting question for going over the meter.

          • @[email protected]
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            210 months ago

            It’s actually a pretty serious problem. It’s not so much that you’re disqualified, as that you’re ineffective at being heard.

            This is a serious problem. Have you considered listening to great speeches, or rap, or poetry?

              • @[email protected]
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                110 months ago

                Listen to lots and lots of them. Absorb their patterns, to adopt those patterns, to improve your own communication.

                • Call me Lenny/LeniM
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                  110 months ago

                  Oh, that. I’ve tried that with other things. I’m finding it difficult, perhaps it’s my mind going a different way.

            • Call me Lenny/LeniM
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              110 months ago

              You two said it was “beyond work drama” and came across like it was unfitting as a result. Are we only expected to describe events that go below a certain glass ceiling of conflict?

              • @Cryophilia
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                110 months ago

                came across like it was unfitting as a result.

                That was all you. We neither said nor implied any such thing.

                • Call me Lenny/LeniM
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                  110 months ago

                  The first comment you replied to contrasted things that seemed “beyond work drama” with the “juicy work drama” they were looking for.

    • CosmicApe
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      10 months ago

      As in he kept me at his house for 2 days.

      Would you care to elaborate?

      • Call me Lenny/LeniM
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        310 months ago

        That’s basically it. I was the closest thing that could be used against the others, which was out of spite. Only was solved due to passerbies who knew something was going on and where.

        • @Passerby6497
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          510 months ago

          …we’re you kidnapped or something?

            • @[email protected]
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              210 months ago

              Do you sometimes feel like people don’t take you seriously, even when you say very serious things?

                • @[email protected]
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                  110 months ago

                  I feel my mind turning off, turning to teflon, when I read your comment. It made me wonder whether others have that experience too.

                  Here’s something interesting: social scientists have found that humans’ eyebrows dance when they talk to each other. The eyebrow dance is normally not consciously perceived, but it is synchronized between two individuals when they speak to one another.

                  What’s more is the eyebrow dance is literally a dance, not a conversation, specifically in the way it is timed. It is perfectly in sync, not offset as you’d expect a back-and-forth response pattern to be.

                  When this eyebrow dance synchronization is inhibited, for example by covering the speaker’s eyebrows, that speaker has an incredibly hard time getting information across.

                  This is a long-documented phenomenon in human culture: that people can be standing there conveying information and others can be hearing it but not picking it up.

                  Like one person can be saying “Our car crashed! My brother is badly hurt and he needs an ambulance! Can I use your phone?” and for various reasons another person can just stand there not processing any of it.

                  So really what I’m trying to say is that human communication is finicky and relies on maintenance of non-obvious parallel channels, and people can get cut off from others when those channels break down.

                  From reading your writing, and seeing how others respond, it makes me think there might be some channel based on word sequencing that’s not being adhered to.

                  I know from experience how much it sucks to be cut off and unseen, so I thought I’d point out for you that while I recognize what you’re saying is important, it doesn’t land in my feelings for some reason, and it feels related to how things are worded.

                  • Call me Lenny/LeniM
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                    210 months ago

                    Does this eyebrow dance apply to neurodivergent individuals as well? I gather I wouldn’t know if it’s not consciously observed, but the feeling of eyebrow movement feels slightly alien to my muscle memory.

                  • @[email protected]
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                    210 months ago

                    I genuinely can’t tell if you’re an elaborate troll, LLM, or just autistic.

                    I don’t mean any of those as an insult, just to say that you have a very distinct prose that really comes through when you write more than a sentence, or two.

                    Given your post history, I’m leaning towards LLM, but I’m open to being wrong.

        • Lenny
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          510 months ago

          Wait, you were held against your will in a house by a coworker??