The person who said “I read a study that mixed-race kids are at higher risk for suicide” is the aggressor to you?
And the person who cast their twenty year friend as a racist for saying this, and ended that twenty-year friendship for this, is not an aggressor at all?
And yes. You perceiving that I have my own issues with people discarding me, and then knowing exactly where to poke to hit that nerve in me, yes you’re a bully.
And honestly I hope you don’t know it. I hope
it takes as long as humanly possible for you to acknowledge it.
I am not in control of your actions, you’re making the decision to continue this line of discussion. I only got involved to begin with to tell you to fuck off. Now here you are, two replies deep, telling me off for bullying you. What’s your endgame?
Do you legitimately not see what you did here? It’s like if you heard a stranger say they were cut off in traffic, and you broke into the conversation to criticize THEIR driving. And then while you’re in the middle of explaining why you’re correct, ANOTHER stranger walks up and says “Why are you hassling this person about their driving?” and you counter with “Stop bullying me.” And now you’re explaining to that second stranger why the person who cut off the first stranger is probably a really great driver, despite the fact that all you have to go on is a summary of a single situation.
Step back for a sec and think about what it would be like for someone to judge your experience of a traumatic event from just a few sentences. You might have misspoken or written it out wrong. You definitely missed some important details. Maybe you embellished or condensed some things to be easier for a stranger to grasp.
I’m not saying this rhetorically. Actually stop and just think for a sec.
Does that help put in perspective why everyone thinks you’re being unfair to OP?
Someone correctly indicating that mixed race children have lower standards of living in racist countries such as the United States is not someone who should be shunned
As someone else in this thread already pointed out, you are conveniently ignoring the OP’s assertion that the “friend” had themselves become a racist, and later STALKED OP. I can’t believe it has to be explained that stalkers shouldn’t be defended.
Let’s say hypothetically OP was in the wrong, and totally misread the entire situation. They cut someone out of their life who didn’t deserve it. That’s STILL their fucking prerogative. They don’t deserve to be stalked for it.
Also you’re siding with somebody who has since recognized they were in the wrong. Read their later replies.
Also, if you communicate like this in person then I doubt you have loved ones or friends. Perhaps you should work on that rather than defending racism and believing lies online
Actually my friends and loved ones display basic human empathy. They don’t berate strangers over the authenticity of their trauma. So I do afford them quite a bit more couth than I feel you’ve earned in this interaction.
I hope that isn’t projection on your part, by the way. At this point I mostly just feel bad for you.
Why not just go back to exploding-heads or truth social? You and your views are clearly incompatible with this particular instance of Lemmy. There’s plenty of instances which cater to your worldview and you won’t get this response. If you don’t like the culture here, find an instance that matches you. That’s the beauty of the fediverse - somewhere, there’s an instance and set of apps that caters to your beliefs.
You’re being bullied?
Someone shared a personal story and you took the side of the aggressor, and then tripled down on it.
And you’re being bullied, huh?
“The aggressor”?
The person who said “I read a study that mixed-race kids are at higher risk for suicide” is the aggressor to you?
And the person who cast their twenty year friend as a racist for saying this, and ended that twenty-year friendship for this, is not an aggressor at all?
And yes. You perceiving that I have my own issues with people discarding me, and then knowing exactly where to poke to hit that nerve in me, yes you’re a bully.
And honestly I hope you don’t know it. I hope it takes as long as humanly possible for you to acknowledge it.
I am not in control of your actions, you’re making the decision to continue this line of discussion. I only got involved to begin with to tell you to fuck off. Now here you are, two replies deep, telling me off for bullying you. What’s your endgame?
Do you legitimately not see what you did here? It’s like if you heard a stranger say they were cut off in traffic, and you broke into the conversation to criticize THEIR driving. And then while you’re in the middle of explaining why you’re correct, ANOTHER stranger walks up and says “Why are you hassling this person about their driving?” and you counter with “Stop bullying me.” And now you’re explaining to that second stranger why the person who cut off the first stranger is probably a really great driver, despite the fact that all you have to go on is a summary of a single situation.
Hey bud. You can still choose to be kind today.
Step back for a sec and think about what it would be like for someone to judge your experience of a traumatic event from just a few sentences. You might have misspoken or written it out wrong. You definitely missed some important details. Maybe you embellished or condensed some things to be easier for a stranger to grasp.
I’m not saying this rhetorically. Actually stop and just think for a sec.
Does that help put in perspective why everyone thinks you’re being unfair to OP?
Someone correctly indicating that mixed race children have lower standards of living in racist countries such as the United States is not someone who should be shunned
As someone else in this thread already pointed out, you are conveniently ignoring the OP’s assertion that the “friend” had themselves become a racist, and later STALKED OP. I can’t believe it has to be explained that stalkers shouldn’t be defended.
Let’s say hypothetically OP was in the wrong, and totally misread the entire situation. They cut someone out of their life who didn’t deserve it. That’s STILL their fucking prerogative. They don’t deserve to be stalked for it.
Also you’re siding with somebody who has since recognized they were in the wrong. Read their later replies.
I really don’t think OP is a credible source, and I don’t find their account to be remotely believable.
My point is that, as a work of creative fiction, not only is their post unbelievable, it’s also internally inconsistent
And you take that as an invitation to do this shit?
Your opinion has been weighed on the scales of this public forum and has been found wanting.
You can go whenever.
To do what shit, precisely?
Also, if you communicate like this in person then I doubt you have loved ones or friends. Perhaps you should work on that rather than defending racism and believing lies online
Actually my friends and loved ones display basic human empathy. They don’t berate strangers over the authenticity of their trauma. So I do afford them quite a bit more couth than I feel you’ve earned in this interaction.
I hope that isn’t projection on your part, by the way. At this point I mostly just feel bad for you.
Why not just go back to exploding-heads or truth social? You and your views are clearly incompatible with this particular instance of Lemmy. There’s plenty of instances which cater to your worldview and you won’t get this response. If you don’t like the culture here, find an instance that matches you. That’s the beauty of the fediverse - somewhere, there’s an instance and set of apps that caters to your beliefs.