Depicted: Incel “Alpha” Males hoping to one day have a submissive wife sex slave, that cooks, maintains the house for them, and raises children, so that they can continue being children themselves. Women are just lining up for this lifestyle, aren’t they?
I have to say, I almost feel a bit of pity. These guys are ground up between insecurities, incapability to understand people and their false interpretation of expectations.
They simply can’t fathom how independent women function, or that they’re independent at all, so they retreat to a romanticized picture of the old times, where women still behaved “normal”.
These guys are deeply lonely. If you read their stories, you can often see that they’re kind of autistic. They think of people as automatons, or NPCs. You do quests for them, put friendliness tokens in them, and thus they become your companion. Just like a companion in Fallout.
Yeah I recently dealt with a guy like this. Openly autistic, serious mental health issues. But also the community he was trying to get into is cool with all that. A lot of the community happens to be autistic or have mental health issues and there’s not much hiding it, though there is an expectation you manage it. But anyways this guy really struggled with people, and we were generally sympathetic to that, but he just wouldn’t stop being virulently right wing and he consistently failed to respect boundaries. He called women who flirted a bit but stopped as they got to know him teases. He had to be told to leave one woman alone after multiple boundary violations. It was bad. And the thing is, he was clearly hurting by the fact that he wasn’t gaining any traction in the community. It was sad, but multiple people explained what he was doing wrong and that his expectations were unrealistic.
I’m reminded of something I read a while back about how incels believe that a girlfriend will solve their problems but the reality is that when they do start dating, unless they’ve fixed their issues they merely find themselves as abusers. They enter relationships not as adults seeking partnerships but as people looking for a thing that will make sense to them and make them happy. And as someone happily married that’s not what a relationship is, my wife is a person and that means sometimes we’re both going to be using our big girl words to talk about our feelings rather than just yelling at each other because we’re both having feelings we know are irrational. Because that’s people for you. We’re complicated messes.
Depicted: Incel “Alpha” Males hoping to one day have a submissive
wifesex slave, that cooks, maintains the house for them, and raises children, so that they can continue being children themselves. Women are just lining up for this lifestyle, aren’t they?I have to say, I almost feel a bit of pity. These guys are ground up between insecurities, incapability to understand people and their false interpretation of expectations.
They simply can’t fathom how independent women function, or that they’re independent at all, so they retreat to a romanticized picture of the old times, where women still behaved “normal”.
These guys are deeply lonely. If you read their stories, you can often see that they’re kind of autistic. They think of people as automatons, or NPCs. You do quests for them, put friendliness tokens in them, and thus they become your companion. Just like a companion in Fallout.
Yeah I recently dealt with a guy like this. Openly autistic, serious mental health issues. But also the community he was trying to get into is cool with all that. A lot of the community happens to be autistic or have mental health issues and there’s not much hiding it, though there is an expectation you manage it. But anyways this guy really struggled with people, and we were generally sympathetic to that, but he just wouldn’t stop being virulently right wing and he consistently failed to respect boundaries. He called women who flirted a bit but stopped as they got to know him teases. He had to be told to leave one woman alone after multiple boundary violations. It was bad. And the thing is, he was clearly hurting by the fact that he wasn’t gaining any traction in the community. It was sad, but multiple people explained what he was doing wrong and that his expectations were unrealistic.
I’m reminded of something I read a while back about how incels believe that a girlfriend will solve their problems but the reality is that when they do start dating, unless they’ve fixed their issues they merely find themselves as abusers. They enter relationships not as adults seeking partnerships but as people looking for a thing that will make sense to them and make them happy. And as someone happily married that’s not what a relationship is, my wife is a person and that means sometimes we’re both going to be using our big girl words to talk about our feelings rather than just yelling at each other because we’re both having feelings we know are irrational. Because that’s people for you. We’re complicated messes.