You know, like “always split on 18,” or “having kids is the most rewarding thing you can do in life.”

What’s that one bit of advice you got from a trusted friend that you know deep, deep down would just ruin your thing?

  • @Doof
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    28 months ago

    As an autistic person who struggles with reading things too literal even I know it just means to not give up. It doesn’t mean to do it the exact same way and expect a difference. People who are reading that way are just being obtuse.

    I have no idea how you’d take it so literally, you are just being uncharitable with its meaning. It could mean , oh you struggle sleeping. Have you tried melatonin, have you gone to the doctor, do you shut everything off before bed. Try that, don’t give up! You have to be looking to twist that saying to see it that way.

    • @[email protected]
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      18 months ago

      As someone who has trouble sleeping, I have literally been told by dozens of people that changing a sleep schedule is as simple as setting an alarm to wake up each moring and going to bed at the same time. They have even used this specific saying.

      I am not saying that is what I think it means. I am saying that is how a lot of people use and understand it, which is why it is bad advice.

      Also, yes I have tried all of those things and they don’t work for me. My body wants to wake up midmorning and decades of trying different approaches hasn’t worked. I am tired all the time except when I take a vacation and get up when I want, which is about 9 a.m. That is also the only time I ever feel rested.

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        18 months ago

        I mean I sometimes take sleeping pills to get some sleep, I’m not arguing about the frustrations of things not working. You having a sleeping disorder or some other issue.

        that line is more about. If you fall get back up. If your first painting sucks, that’s okay your next one will be a little bit better.

        Some idiots may use it the way but it’s not how it should be used. Though I understand it would be irritating to hear for something like that.

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          08 months ago

          Having a non-sterotypical sleeping pattern is not a disorder, that is insulting and a perpetuation of people who naturally rise earlier being seen as better than those with different sleep patterns.

          If a lot of people are using it wrong because they take it literally, then it is bad advice. Better advice would be “If you don’t succeed, consider another approach”.

          • @Doof
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            08 months ago

            I said or something else though if you want to be argumentative, insomnia is in-fact a disorder you dork. Why are we talking about sleep for fucks sake. It was used as a broad example and now we are suddenly on this topic? I now see why you take the quote so literally.

            • @[email protected]
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              08 months ago

              This isn’t insomnia, it is just having a natural variance in sleep cycles.

              I don’t take the quote literally, which you would understand if you could read.

              • @Doof
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                08 months ago

                Kettle meet black. My god.