My relationship with my body is bit of a rollercoaster, I will live my body and dislike it for being too skinny etc. I am slowly but surely starting to like my body more which one way is fashion which is wearing shorter shorts.
I think also I have a bad habit of conparing jorks/beefy men from porn and wish I have that body as well.
Hey buddy this can be difficult for sure. I know it’s cold comfort, but basically everyone feels that way about their body, even the beefiest porn guy feels that way a little inside.
I’ve been spending more time actually looking at myself in the mirror in various states of undress, and accepting who I am. I also just hang out half-naked/naked a lot more when I’m alone. I don’t have to like everything about myself to still like myself, and for me that was a hard lesson to learn.
Second, remember to separate how you feel about your body from how others feel about your body. Where you are attracted to a certain type, you don’t know what someone else is attracted to. And there are people out there who are exactly into you! I don’t know exactly what/who you’re into, but I think you have an awesome body. I hope it doesn’t make you uncomfortable, but yeah you look like you’re nice to caress and generally be intimate with.
Third, consider working with a therapist/BetterHelp if you can! It’s great to have someone who is educated and experienced in these matters to work on things with you.
Just hanging out around the house in front of mirrors is a great one. I used to be the type who was happy when looking at myself in the mirror and devastated seeing pictures of myself, because I’d alway pose myself at my best angle for the mirror and a pic would never be directly on and would show the actual shape of my person or my posture. I should acknowledge that this method did get me to become healthier so it’s not like I finally accepted myself as good but it made me accept who/how I am.
The funny thing is that I have hookup few times and guys live my body but I still feel mix about it but that’s coming from someone who badly overthinks the minor stuff so it it getting off that habit really
Also thanks and don’t worry, I take that stuff as a compliment lol. Only ones that makes me uncomfortable is gay men on Grindr who demand that I see them right now and take no for an answer.