yeah but it feels pretty callous to just have a machine sending her the words of affirmation and not you. I read your comment above, I have adhd and am easily distracted aswell. My girlfriend had a similar problem with me not being as available/talkative when we’re not in person, and she really appreciated it when I put the effort to text and call her more. My suggestion would be maybe to set a timer to remind yourself to text her instead2 of automating the whole thing. If the other apps on the phone are too distracting, maybe you can limit their screentime or even remove them, just make it harder to get to them somehow.