• @glimse
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    53 months ago

    Glad it’s working for you. I think too many people get caught up in the idea without thinking it through which inevitably leads to fallout.

    • Maven (famous)
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      113 months ago

      That’s the big thing. Polyamory is a LOT of work and most people don’t want to put that effort in.

      It’s also just in general not for everyone. Nothing is for everyone… but I feel like every time I see people online generally talking about polyamory it’s always examples of people who didn’t want to put in the work, doing it poorly.

      Just because it isn’t for everyone doesn’t mean it can never work. It’s a lot better for people to be talking about healthy ways to do it so people who would enjoy polyamory can do it correctly the first time.

      • Pennomi
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        133 months ago

        The main issue is people who aren’t mature enough for ONE relationship thinking they can handle MULTIPLE relationships simultaneously.

        Also, you hear a lot about the poly horror stories (sure, there are lots of them) but people seem to ignore the fact that normal relationships experience all the same horror stories.

        • Maven (famous)
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          83 months ago

          Exactly my thoughts as well!

          Poly is not the reason that you can’t communicate, Steven.

          • @captainlezbian
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            33 months ago

            And also the people who are definitely the problem sure are drawn to the idea of getting multiple partners at once

      • @glimse
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        -53 months ago

        Hence why I’d discourage people from trying it but wouldn’t interfere if they were already doing it. If it works, it works…but it doesn’t work for 99% of people.