the colleague in question feels that only her way of doing things is the right one and expects me to adapt to her way of thinking and her logic. This is tiring and burdensome because I have to force me to stop doing things automatically and efficiently, but think how she wants it done and do it her way. I work worse when this happens.
There are several ways to reach the same goal and I always adapt according to the situation at hand. I do what feels logic at the time and work my way.
I already told the charge nurse charge about it but I don’t know if she had a conversation with this coworker and what was said.
The message has to be neutral and polite. What do you think of this?
I feel you believe you are my boss. You are not. Stop telling me how to work. It’s tiring. You have your way of doing things, I’ve got mine, both equally good. Should you have a problem with this, contact the charge or manager. I’m gonna go work now.
“I’m always open to legitimate feedback, but trying to make me do things exactly like you do is not helpful. If you see a problem with my work, please let me know how it’s a problem and what the consequence may be. If I hear you and disagree with you, you need to hear me and let it go.”
What’s tough here is you work in healthcare. Open communication and feeling comfortable calling someone out for an error are key to avoiding patient harm, so it’s probably in your best interest to maintain open lines of communication with her, even if you’re having to constantly assert boundaries