The turning point for Destonee was a car ride.

She describes a scene of emotional abuse: Pregnant with her third child, her husband yelled at her while her older two kids listened in the car. “He would call me awful things in front of them,” she says. “And soon my son would call me those names too.”

She made up her mind to leave him, but when she went to a lawyer to file for divorce, she was told to come back when she was no longer pregnant.

Destonee requested she be identified by only her first name. She says she still lives with abusive threats from her ex-husband. She couldn’t end her marriage because Missouri law requires women seeking divorce to disclose whether they’re pregnant — and state judges won’t finalize divorces during a pregnancy. Established in the 1970s, the rule was intended to make sure men were financially accountable for the children they fathered.

  • Flying Squid
    14•8 months ago

    I never claimed one was better or worse than the other.

    You sure implied it by suggesting they should be of equal priority:

    Why does one of these things need to be higher priority than the other? They all need to be fixed. We don’t have to do one at a time.

    I would suggest that most people in this world would consider stopping murder to be the higher priority than stopping fraud. I’m not sure why you don’t, but…

    • @halcyoncmdrEnglish
      -13•8 months ago

      So prioritized things have a higher or lower precedence or importance. But if they have equal precedence, then there is no priority. Greater than and less than are not equal.

      You might want to re-read my responses because your reading comprehension of them is lacking. I never said one issue was more important than the other. In fact, I never said they were equal importance either. I just made a comment pointing out there are also other marital law issues.

      You are assuming I said or meant some sort of priority between issues, but I never said one was more important. I said they all needed to be fixed and we don’t have to do one thing at a time. That explicitly doesn’t put any sort of priority on anything.

      • Flying Squid
        12•8 months ago

        Repeatedly insulting me does not make what you said any less an implication that fraud and murder are equally bad.

        Furthermore, a compromise law such as the one you stated would take a long time to craft, whereas repealing this law would be fast.

        So maybe just repeal the law and then work on your ideas?

        • @[email protected]
          -6•8 months ago

          How about you stop trying to make a point over other peoples opinions. With your spam posting and constant retorts it’s become very tiresome. Give it a rest

          • Flying Squid
            4•8 months ago

            Please give an example of my spam posting. What product or company am I posting on behalf of?

            • @[email protected]
              -3•8 months ago

              You make posts and comment on too many things. This website isn’t about you and your opinion doesn’t deserve an outsized influence just because you have the time. I blocked you on my last account and it was a great improvement

              • Flying Squid
                6•8 months ago

                When did I even suggest my opinion deserves an outsized influence? You’re free to post as much as I am and you’re free to disagree with me about anything I say.

                And if you don’t want to see me, block me again. That said “on my last account” makes it sound like you were banned from lemmy.world…

              • @AquaTofana
                -1•8 months ago

                Are you really mad that someone likes to spend time on a website that revolves around engagement/discussion on posted topics and then they…have the audacity to…engage on it?!?! Bruh.

        • @halcyoncmdrEnglish
          -8•8 months ago

          Repeatedly insulting me does not make what you said any less an implication that fraud and murder are equally bad.

          And you claiming I implied something doesn’t mean I actually did. I never made the claim you seem so stuck on saying I did.

          Furthermore, a compromise law such as the one you stated would take a long time to craft, whereas repealing this law would be fast.

          Ah yes, so fast it’s been done already right? Because trying to change it versus repealing it is clearly why it’s still on the books. It’s not at all because legislators want it to stay, or just don’t care.

          Missouri does appear to have a way for citizens to petition statutory changes directly, so people could actually put together a repeal themselves if they wanted to, they just… haven’t I guess?