The tricky thing I’ve noticed in myself is, feeling like a bother or a burden makes me a bother or a burden. Going in feeling like they will be bothered makes me act in awkward ways that is a bother to others. Trying to enter a conversation despite feeling like I’m going to be a burden is similar, I’m just relying on their charity or hoping they don’t notice that I’m a burden. Super awkward.

Entering a conversation believing they want to talk but also willing to leave if the vibes aren’t right seems to be the best balance for me.