After two users admitted to doxxing me, and another admitted to digging through all of my past posts and comments, I decided to deleted my past posts. One user put my name, and my husband’s name into a comment box on one of my posts, and then tried to claim he hadn’t doxxed me for that information.
Another user decided to stalk my page, and then followed me to a post about my cat, where he proceeded to tell me I needed mental help for all of my other posts and comments. I called him out for stalking my page and digging through all of my past posts and comments in order to tell me that. I think stalkers need mental help, and a Lemmy user named Steak is totally a stalker. So to prevent people like that from digging through all of my past comments and posts, I have decided to delete many of them. Stalking is a mental illness, and many Lemmy readers don’t want to admit that. I hope readers like him seek mental help. There isn’t something wrong with searching for a missing spouse. There is something wrong with stalking and doxing a woman you’ve never met.
This person seems to have invaded your privacy, but the snippets of their comments make it seem like they were (at least originally) well intentioned and trying to find information about your husband and legal situation. They told you how easily they found information on you and exactly how they did it—this furthers my point that you can avoid this type of thing by modifying your own posting habits.
In my opinion, from the limited evidence in this screenshot, the other person needs a warning and you need a crash course in basic online safety.
Again, just to be clear, anybody who doxxes or stalks someone is in the wrong and should be held accountable. Likewise, we should all be accountable for our safety and privacy online also.
Actually, my name and photos of me are online for work related purposes and anyone can see those if they already know my name and profession. It isn’t against online safety for those items to be on public websites. It’s 2024, not the 90’s. I don’t think I need a crash course in online safety. I think people on Lemmy need to follow the rules. If you really want to advocate for online safety, why don’t you discuss how you signed up for Lemmy knowing your IP address would be visible to a bunch of strangers, with no required qualifications or background checks needed to operate and manage the Lemmy site. Do you need a crash course in internet safety? Should we argue everyone should just not have internet? Phones can be tracked really easily. Should everyone give up their phone?