A friend of mine for around 4-5 years at this point has randomly started ghosting me completely over the past month or so… I know they’ve seen my messages and I know that they’re also autistic so they’d know I probably wouldn’t get it and I saw no signs of the friendship having any problems and yet they’ve just suddenly stopped and I have no idea what I did wrong…

Why is being a functioning social creature so damn hard?

  • @contextual_somebody
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    291 year ago

    They could be dealing with depression or something. It might not be about you at all. I try to not make assumptions.

    • GVasco
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      101 year ago

      This! I’m not great at replying to texts, from feeling depressed to demand avoidance, sometimes it’s hard when you réel there are toi many expectations. Maybe try sending an open ended message without any questions, juste saying you hope he’s alright and that he can message you if he wants to talk or wants some company.

    • @AstrealixOP
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      41 year ago

      Yeah that’s one possibility I considered and tbh is probably most likely given like, I don’t think I did anything wrong? But I’d hope not, would definitely rather I made a mistake…

  • Ben
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    81 year ago

    It’s important that you move on and stop focussing on the past. It can be painful, and usually it is fruitless.

    After 12 years moving to a new town in the UK, I realised that so many of my friends and contacts had basically disappeared - moved away, or got into relationships so that family life kept them away from pubs I used to frequent.

    It’s rarely something personal, often people just move on.

    • @AstrealixOP
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      11 year ago

      Yeah, I just want to like, be a better friend and stuff so it can stop happening cuz like you said it’s painful. Just can’t ever seem to understand and often there’s no clues at all.

  • Alexmitter
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    71 year ago

    Yes thats humans. And even if you ask them, they will not give a proper answer.
    Best recommendation I have is, let them go. Friendships expire and there is nothing that can be done about it.

  • finally debunked
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    1 year ago

    maybe your problem isn’t that your “friend” ghosted you; it’s that you’re too sensitive and emotionally dependent

    • Superb
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      101 year ago

      Hey your comment sucks hard. Loosing a friend hurts, and not knowing why hurts more.

      It’s something everyone goes through and it’s hard every time. No one need your shaming them for having emotions