• WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]
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      137 months ago

      A decade ago, my parents got married in Vermont (before the Supreme Count decision in favor of gay marriage). Apparently they had a lot of just random people show up. I wasn’t invited because they didn’t want to pay travel costs, so idk how many. Granted, not sure how many knew it was a gay marriage: my mom passes as a guy on normal days, probably even moreso in a suit at a wedding.

      Are there people who just attend random weddings regularly as like a hobby or something?

    • @aodhsishaj
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      37 months ago

      I don’t see anywhere I can donate anything but money. How do I volunteer my time or resources for this?

  • @RegalPotoo
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    257 months ago

    Your mum/mom is the key female figure in your life; a person you go to for love and comfort, who supports you and encourages you and pushes you to be a better person.

    Your mother is the person who gave birth to you.

    These are not always the same person. Everyone has a mother, some people have more than one mum, some people don’t have a mum at all.

    • StametsOP
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      157 months ago

      I’m one of the ones with no mum or dad. It gets hard sometimes to hold back the bitterness and cynicism when I see a family just… Happy.

      • pancakes
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        137 months ago

        All of us the enjoy the memes you post are like a little family. It might not seem like much but if you think about the people going through the worst of it, I’m certain you’ve improved their day. Sometimes when things are dark, all it takes is a laugh, or mildly positive moment to cling to and act as the seed that will eventually bloom into a healthier outlook on life. So thank you for the light you’ve brought to my life.

        • StametsOP
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          67 months ago

          I really appreciate it :)

          I post stuff for a lot of different reasons but helping other people have a slightly less shitty day is one of them. Sure. I can’t make good stuff for people or entertain them in that way but hopefully I can show something some people haven’t seen and get a kick out of.

          Thank you. A lot.

          • @TastyWheat
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            77 months ago

            Just wanted to say that your post was the first one I saw on Lemmy today after waking up, and it brought a smile to my face too.

            I showed it to my cat as well but he can’t read so his mileage may vary.

      • flicker
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        67 months ago

        I was just coming to these comments to say if anybody needs a mom and isn’t too hung up on “appropriate topics for a Mom to talk about” and doesn’t have any weird expectations that I’ll behave like a neurotypical- I fuckin got you fam just DM me.

        Start with something to let me know you need a Mom or I might say something awkward but yeah.

        True story- my mom was a malignant narcissist (diagnosed!), a drug and gambling addict, and a real piece of shit. And when I was much younger, I was all upset I didn’t ever know what it was like to have a “mom” like you see on TV. So I decided, I’ll be my own fuckin mom.

        I’ve been honing my Mom skills ever since. Any time I’d think, “Man, I could use a Mom,” I’d ask what that person would be doing, figure out what it was I was missing, and then I’d just… do that. I’d talk to myself, I’d comfort myself, my chocolate chip making cookie skills are off the fuckin chain!

        You can be your own Mom. You can be anybody’s Mom. Those are all skills you can practice.

        Be the Mom you want to see in the world.

        • StametsOP
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          47 months ago

          Sometimes it feels like that would totally be me without my little girl.

      • @RegalPotoo
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        17 months ago

        I’m really sorry that you’ve had that, that’s crappy. I hope you can find people to give you the love and support you deserve

      • @waz
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        17 months ago

        I am currently living what is pretty close to the quintessential happy family. From the outside I bet it looks even better. I grew up in a very different situation. There are literally times I am jealous of my own kids because they have no idea how shitty some people’s lives are.

        Personally I still feel like a damaged human that doesn’t deserve the life I have.

        I dont know where I was going with all of that. I guess what may look like happy may not actually be.

        Anyway, I hope you find your happy.

  • Lad
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    97 months ago

    This is top class. I’m not LGBT+, but I’m always amazed by the positivity and warmth of the people in the community. They seem like the kind of people who would help me if I needed support with something unrelated to sexuality or gender identity.

  • @[email protected]
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    I’ll do it too, but here are some caveats:

    • not a woman
    • not bringing the bubbly (though I may pregame)
    • might not actually show

    But at least I intend to help. Maybe my offer is better as a “dad” instead.