Gendered question, I know. If you don’t identify as a man, please feel free to answer with whatever you want. I meant to post it in the Men’s Lib sub but somehow it always bugs for me.
Let’s spill the tea lads
I like painting my nails.
I like gardening and I take great pride in my plants and upcoming indoor veggie and herb garden.
I dance when I go out.
I like bright colors.
I like candles that smell nice.
I like flowers.
I like Harry Styles.
I like crocheting.
Whatever you like, be proud of it. There is no such thing as liking something unmanly. Nothing can harm your manliness. Do what you want.
I think the term “manly” has been so polluted. I don’t think there is nothing “unmanly” with:
- Loving nature.
- Loving your neighbor (even Jesus said to).
- Loving culture (and accepting other’s culture).
- Showing emotion (except for you narcissists who use this as an excuse for abuse. Fuck you).
- Dancing.
- Going outside just to feel the wind gently blowing your hair and caressing your face.
We are capable of very complex modes of existing. There is no reason to keep being the same hateful person every day. It takes courage to go out of your confort zone. It takes courage to be a “man”. Whatever it is that word means. Love you all. <3
Edit: Guys, are comments like this valuable? On Reddit I felt the need to write this way, but everyone seems so chill here…
We are very chill here. I hope this post can show the new people what Lemmygrad can be as well, a fun and supporting community. There’s no need to hide who you are here, so feel free to type whichever way you want.
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I love adorable animals, I’ll squeal with delight whenever I see a video of one. Alpacas are my favorite.
atta boy
Girl, actually. She touches more grass than I do.
Aww 😍
her widdle tummy. oh my gods 😭
Alpacas are great. I rented this tiny house in the woods this one time and it had a small animal farm (commie reference) next to it. I woke up next to the alpacas everyday and I had some coffee while they kept eating grass non stop.
Sounds like heaven, you’re making me jealous. I used to volunteer in my city’s zoo every summer and on lunch break I got to go to the petting zoo for the alpacas.
Why didn’t you teach the Alpacas communist theory when you lived there? smh
Reptiles are my favorite and every time I see some lizard or tiny snake, I let them crawl on me
When I visited Disney World as a kid I loved the little lizards running around the resorts. Those lizards are the only good thing about Florida.
And alligators
I don’t think anyone should feel the need to quantify their actions into a specific gender.
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I probably show a lot more emotion then is stereotypical. I was on swim team in high school. In my heterosexual relationship I was the one that really wanted a child first. If my wife made enough money I would absolutely be a stay at home dad if we needed a stay at home parent (We don’t need any parent to stay at home thankfully right now, the way childcare is working out). I go to therapy and actually find it useful. I guess for the typical “male” things I do power lifting (Swoletariat FTW), but I really didn’t get into to that until later in life anyway, and I don’t follow any of the prototypical lifters.
Bro, therapy is so underrated. Growing up I was made to believe only crazy people needed it. But like, we are not perfect. And talking to someone who was able to call me out on my BS (in a good way) and show me my blindspots was such an eye opener. Would recommend.
I like gardening
This is seriously considered unmanly? Smh
I refuse to believe it
I’ve had a bad case of anhedonia the past few years, so I don’t find myself enjoying many things, manly or otherwise. However, I can say some “manly” things I don’t like.
I never cared for professional sports. I could maybe get it if the teams actually had ties to the cities they’re in, but trading players between teams baffles me. Then you get to fantasy sports, where people basically just track numbers and bet. People tell me sports teams are a great way to find common ground with strangers, but all I can see are brands being used to shove ads in peoples’ faces and encourage people to gamble.
Same, all the guys I’ve met are crazy about sports and FIFA games. When I was in high school, I would skip playing football during Phys Ed and watch what the girls were doing instead.
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I got out of gym class in highschool because people in band class don’t have to take it.
I could maybe get it if the teams actually had ties to the cities they’re in, but trading players between teams baffles me.
I think this is probably part of why the only time I follow football is when it’s the World Cup or the Euros or something with the national teams like that. Obviously I’m not super into the nationalism aspect of it all, but I guess I just find the concept of managers having to kinda just work with what they’ve got more appealing than rich clubs just buying up most of the best players.
Olympics are better somewhat since national allegiance is much more stringent, but things like the World Cup, Euros, FIFA suck as the teams are bought and traded basically. Like how Frances team from this past FIFA was basically all made up of players from its colonies and not France.
So many things really. I’ve never had any issue with identifying as a man and have always considered myself straight or whatever but I have also always enjoyed “feminine” things without any shame.
I love dancing, fashion, home decorating, really any sort of “domestic” stuff I can get into like cooking or gardening or whatever. I’ve always been into feminine sorta music artists like Lana Del Rey and what not. I wear lots of pinks and other colors and have some feminine sorta tattoos like butterflies and such.
I’ve also worn a dress and done up my makeup a couple of times which was a fun experience. You definitely appreciate how long it can take women to get ready to go out once you try it all yourself lol. I’m honestly glad society doesn’t expect that sorta thing of me (hair, makeup, nails ect) cause I could easily see myself getting very into it and that shit costs lotta time and money.
I don’t see why any man can’t just enjoy the shit that they are drawn to or interested in.
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(Imagine the maracas are cymbals.)
Poetry is a strange one. I also write some and when I mention it I get the strangest looks and have had some awful responses.
I usually refer them to Akala when I hear the gendered shit. If you haven’t heard of him, he’s a British rapper. He wrote a great book about race. He works with the Royal Shakespeare Company (I think) and goes around schools putting Shakespeare to a beat and explaining how e.g. Tupac rapped in iambic pentameter. He has videos on YouTube and his Fire in the Booth rap is great.
I want to say keep rhyming, Reggaelater Demoman, but my poems don’t always rhyme and yours might not, either. Keep writing!
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I don’t think any videogames can be considered non “manly”, like 90% of people who play pretty much everything you mentioned are men.
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Tons of things like others have said. Gardening, dancing, fashion, romance, R&B, Opera, growing my hair out, wine, healthy food. I don’t really even consider these unmanly, but I know many do for a cis hetero man. Other than choosing clothes that fit my body type, my gender has no influence on the things I do or choices I make.
I wear and have a lot of pink things. I have a few pairs of flower earrings. I like cute things. If I drink I prefer fruity cocktails.
“Mmm this straight-up hard liquor tastes so good”
- Liars
fruity cocktails taste the best and usually have higher alcohol percentages than beer or “manly” cocktails. if you wanna get hammered, go with what the high femme gal at the bar is ordering.
i never saw gardening as something “unmanly”, but that might be because i live in a semi-rural area. everybody and their paw-paw gardens, just about. i always paint my nails, and sometimes i’ll wear makeup. i see other people mentioning cooking and sewing, but i think that’s very dependant on where you’re at. my dad, brothers, uncles, male cousins all cook and sew. i always thought it was weird if men couldn’t do that; in context of “traditional” Western masculinity, doesn’t that mean youre weak and cant provide if you can’t cook for your family to keep them fed, or can’t fix their clothes to keep them warm? though embroidery is considered feminine, and i like to practice that. i’m really bad at it, but it counts!
Women were forcefully relegated to housework only, so things like cooking and sewing were all that women could do if they didn’t want to go insane or be beat.
So by extension, in many places those tasks are considered unmanly.
It’s weird but as soon as a man can make good money doing it, it’s no longer women’s work. Programming? Nope. Masculine now. No women allowed. Cooking? Nope. You’re a Chef now. No women in the real kitchen. Transcribing? Yes, good men of the cloth, women can’t transcribe. Eww gross typewriters, women’s work.
Anything to perpetuate that women don’t get independence or equality.
I’m old so when I was a teenager the Spice Girls were on top of the charts.
I would blast Spice Girls songs on my stereo and sing along. I don’t know how it was around the world but here in Brazil it was heavily considered “girl music” in the 90s and if anyone from school saw me doing that they would heavily bully me and call me gay or whatever.
Luckily for me I lived very far away from school, and also discovered myself as bisexual 20 years later soooo… call me gay as much as you like. :)
Domestic tasks like cooking, washing dishes, folding laundry. It’s something real I can do to make me and my partner’s lives keep going smooth, plus they’re great opportunities for either podcasts or mindfulness.
This is me lol. My wife and I really don’t have gender rolls as a married couple but I ended up being the one that cooks and cleans for the most part. She hates it and I actually like it so maybe she lucked out. 😂
I like doing skincare and facial scrubs and fancy soaps and such (I do wish it wasn’t as tarnished by consumerism but I’ve got no other alternatives)- and apparently I’ve gotten too good at it because strangers mistake me for a girl sometimes.
Same. Skincare routine for men is underrated. Skincare after shaving is still skincare, guys. Apply creams, moisturizer, face masks etc. Your skin will thank you.
I have this instinctive distrust of skincare products. On the one hand I can see that they make a difference, but on the other it all feels so marketed and I have difficulty trusting the companies that sell them. Like I sometimes wonder if some of those products are very simple, very accessible chemicals that are cheap to get/make, but with extra smells and a price hike slapped on.
That said, used coffee grounds as a facial scrub <3
Stole this from a blog, but making everything is also an option- this is one for cleansing face wipes
EQUIPMENT 8 ounce glass spray bottle Reusable fabric wipes (or cotton rounds) INGREDIENTS
1 cup distilled water 2 tsp aloe vera gel 2 tsp witch hazel ¼ tsp castile soap (or less if desired) 1 tsp olive oil (or almond, avocado, fractionated coconut oil, etc.) INSTRUCTIONS
Add the oil, aloe vera, and witch hazel to the bottom of a glass spray bottle and mix to combine. Add the castile soap. Last, add the water just until the bottle is almost full. If you’re using a 16-ounce spray bottle then fill it halfway full. Shake and spray the mixture on your cloth wipes right before use. Store the mixture in the fridge and use within 1-2 weeks.
Strong agree. I don’t know how some people don’t do it. My skin is unforgiving, though. I couldn’t shave if I didn’t moisturise after. Alum block also comes in handy.
soaps/shampoos/conditioners marketed at women are always somehow better than the “Badass” manly ones by Adidas or whatever.
The scent of Lavender VS The scent of WARCRIMES
I use whatever happens to be in the shower. Many times it’s marketed towards women.
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No joke a while ago I went to my parents’ house for a visit and my brother had this shampoo and body was 2-in1 standing there which had and image of an explosion and flames on it lmao
No joke a while ago I went to my parents’ house for a visit and my brother had this shampoo and body wash 2-in-1 standing there which had and image of an explosion and flames on it lmao
