• @Katt
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    372 years ago

    “No” is a very powerfull word.

    If you are a minor and didn’t have a choice, I sincerely sympathize with your fate.

  • @[email protected]OP
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    2 years ago

    I seem to be having trouble responding to some comments.

    To answer a few points, my mother is in her 90s. She is not suffering from dementia, but she doesn’t deal well with not getting her way. She throws tantrums in public. So it is easier just to go along with her wishes. One of my sisters had the police called on her for elder abuse once because my mother was throwing such a fit about how mean her daughter was to random strangers. Edit: if you’ve seen the episode of Malcolm in the Middle where Lois’s evil mother comes to visit, and they call the police on her when she refuses to leave, and she plays the pity card to the cops and almost gets Hal arrested? That’s my mother.

    This trip was the first time I had seen her in 2 years. I took her to the casino with the agreement that I would wait outside, but of course she pretended to be looking for me in the casino, security called me thinking she was lost, and when I went in she insisted we go eat there rather than heading back to the vacation rental. I couldn’t exactly leave my elderly mother there and go back to the vacation rental without her.

    I got home a week ago and don’t plan on calling her for a while. I am still pissed off.

    • @[email protected]
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      102 years ago

      I got home a week ago and don’t plan on calling her for a while. I am still pissed off.

      Sheesh, I don’t blame you.

    • @[email protected]
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      52 years ago

      My sympathies to you, (not that you need it but) it sounds like a really rough time! I don’t know if I’d have the energy to deal with adult tantrums when I have a migraine so I completely understand and don’t blame you for taking time for yourself now that you can.

    • @TurnItOff_OnAgain
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      32 years ago

      Are you in Vegas? I went there for my honeymoon and stayed at the South Point hotel. It had a bowling alley in it as well.

  • GreatAlbatross
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    262 years ago

    “You know what would make you feel better? Clattery noises, excited people, loud carpet, bright lights, hard chairs, and fried food smells.”

    • @nogooduser
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      152 years ago

      I know someone who was having a rough time at work so her boyfriend took her out for a meal to make her feel better. To Five Guys… and she’s vegetarian.

      • puddy
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        142 years ago

        Did it work? I’d imagine she felt way better after the breakup

        • @nogooduser
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          92 years ago

          She does actually feel a lot better now that she’s not with him and has found someone nicer.

  • @amnesiacrobat
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    192 years ago

    Others have already commented on the insanity of her forcing you to go to a bowling alley with a migraine, so I just want to add: eat? At a BOWLING ALLEY? Goodness, the food alone would be horrible enough without a migraine. I’m so sorry and don’t blame you for taking some time to distance yourself from your mom.

    • @[email protected]OP
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      122 years ago

      She has a stomach like cast iron, and wanted greasy fried food.

      The weird part is, she’s from Italy and is a big food snob, but when she comes to the US she wants to eat gross food.

      • @amnesiacrobat
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        72 years ago

        Well she has a lot of choices in that regard!

  • Zaros
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    182 years ago

    How are you still alive? I have to remove batteries from clocks around the house during a migraine because even the ticking noise is too much…

  • @Rick
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    162 years ago

    How does anyone do anything with a migraine? I literally feel like Im going to die from them.

    • @[email protected]OP
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      152 years ago

      Its tough. I take massive amounts of meds.

      If my mother wasn’t 93 and acting like a toddler, I’d have left her there alone.

    • @NotYourSocialWorker
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      22 years ago

      My wife is like that, she can still function (though I guess it costs her) while I’m totally knocked out by mines.

  • @aragon
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    Oh gawd. Sitting through all this when having normal stress headache itself is impossible. I would have puked and collapsed into a fetal position. Not sure how you even pulled it off. Also time to get a new mom.

    • @[email protected]OP
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      72 years ago

      She’s a narcissistic bitch, and I try to limit my exposure to her as much as possible.

  • @HerrLewakaas
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    82 years ago

    Damn these things really do look exactly the same everywhere

  • @amnesiacrobat
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    72 years ago

    Others have already commented on the insanity of her forcing you to go to a bowling alley with a migraine, so I just want to add: eat? At a BOWLING ALLEY? Goodness, the food alone would be horrible enough without a migraine. I’m so sorry and don’t blame you for taking some time to distance yourself from your mom.

    • CoderKat
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      32 years ago

      Some bowling alleys have good food. There’s one big one in my city that has a gigantic Boston Pizza, arcade, escape rooms, and more all in one building. The Boston Pizza is great. They have solid food.

  • HobbitFoot
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    62 years ago

    At that point, I’d throw up publicly.

    But in a tub or something. I’m not a monster.

  • @Lanmanager
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    52 years ago

    But (Bowling alley) carpet… carpet never changes.

  • @[email protected]
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    42 years ago

    I have chronic migraine. It can be very difficult for people to understand that not all of my migraines are severe because they have a family member/friend that has them and every time they have to be in a dark room, no noise, etc. A lot of my migraines are moderate and I can mostly function but it is miserable. I have gotten pretty good at saying not today.

    • @[email protected]OP
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      32 years ago

      Yeah, exactly. My migraine got much worse as the night wore on. I took a ton of gabapentin and Ubrelvy just to get through it.

  • @[email protected]
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    32 years ago

    While I’d rather not be at a casino, bowling seems like a better way to pass time there to me. At least I understand the game and how much it costs.