• @[email protected]
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    That’s a tough one. I’d have to say April 25th, because it’s not too hot, and not too cold. All you need is a light jacket.

  • @NotAnotherLemmyUser
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    Definitely not a movie night, you don’t get much of a chance to really know the other person from that, and if either one of you decides that the other is crazy it makes it a little harder to dip out.

    Ideally something simple that’s good for getting to know the other person while being able to leave at any time. Coffee, shaved ice, frozen yogurt, etc. Then a walk through a park or along a beach, or just sit down/people watch, and discuss your interests to see if either of you are interested in a second date.

  • all-knight-party
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    I’m married now, but I was always a fan of the cheesy stuff, like going bowling or mini golfing. Some of my more memorable dates were extremely simple, like sitting in a car with the seats laid back listening to music and just talking

    • @[email protected]
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      1225 days ago

      Married as well… I still try to date my wife. But yeah it’s the simple (and often cheap) things received the best. A picnic to add to the list

    • Taybur
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      That’s how my boyfriend and I had our first date. He tried to plan a date a few times but I was busy/flaky. One day he messaged me saying he was nearby at a bar with some friends and asked if I wanted to stop by for a drink. And here we are a year later.

      • @finestnothing
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        1525 days ago

        Ideal date - the beginning of time. I’m partial to Jan 1st 1970. All my homies love integer dates since the epoch.

  • @InternetCitizen2
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    825 days ago

    Coffee is nice. My favorite is the one where we go no where in particular on my motorcycle.

  • @[email protected]
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    725 days ago

    Art gallery followed by some lunch, then visit a record store.

    This way you get to know the person’s tastes in art and you can judge if you’re compatible. If they don’t like the art you like it’s probably not a good fit. If they pick up a Taylor Swift album I know it’s not gonna work.

    I think a person’s taste in art is a very good indicator. And if they’re not really into art or music then they’re not a good match

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    625 days ago

    I would say going out for lunch somewhere nice. It’s a common activity that can go on for as long as you need, whether that be a long time or a short one. You get to talk to one another, and the focus can just be on you and your meals.

    The second date would be home cooking and a terrible movie. Like, Birdemic levels of bad. Something we can watch and have fun with, but can talk over it or start doing other stuff without missing anything good.

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    625 days ago

    I liked inviting people for a walk around Oakland Lake Merritt. Takes about an hour and the scenery is constantly changing, creating opportunities for conversation.

  • The very first date I had was an escape room under a restaurant. We got there early so we opted for drinks beforehand, then did the escape room together.

    We’re still hapoy together after 5+ years and we recently adopted a cat, so I’d say it worked out alright.

  • @throwaways_are_for_cowards
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    425 days ago

    I like a movie (or a show or whatever) and dinner/drinks after, because then you by default have something to talk about.

    • @[email protected]
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      325 days ago

      Really? I’d consider a movie like 2nd or 3rd date material, but I guess if you’re having an event after it would make sense.

      • @throwaways_are_for_cowards
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        425 days ago

        It may help that I’ve never really “cold” dated. Every “first date” I’ve ever been on was with someone whom I was already at least decently friendly, so usually it’s more like I found a movie or event or whatever that we were both interested in. It had not occurred to me that sitting in a dark theater with someone you weren’t terribly familiar with could be something that needed vetting, but upon reflection I can see where that may cause problems. My naive ass just likes movies.

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    325 days ago

    I like smaller art museums. They’re full of things to chat about, usually have some ways to bring out some red flags if they’re there, and it’s usually quiet enough to have a conversation.