• ALQ
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    3921 days ago

    Bold of any of them to assume I’ll remember there was an “it” to remember in the first place. My best offer is a vague sense that I’ve forgotten something.

    • @SLVRDRGN
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      320 days ago

      A vague sense of having forgotten something … that’s got to be true for ADHD and non-ADHD alike!

      • @Gigasser
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        219 days ago

        I always trust that feeling, what’s the downside to not doing so, other than time?

  • @recklessengagement
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    3120 days ago

    My memory sort of acts like a carousel/merry-go-round, in that I’ll store a memory, I know it is there, but I cannot access it at will, and it will re-appear at a random time at some point in the future when doing something completely unrelated.

    A “memory-go-round”, if you will.

  • kamenLady.
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    21 days ago

    I keep finding old notebooks, where i started writing stuff on the first page.

    Just to never ever touch it again, but find it again years later and go “ooooh, i wrote this?”

  • TheRealKuni
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    2320 days ago

    Google Assistant or Siri are awesome for this. I just hold down a button on my phone or watch and then say, “Remind me <when> about <what>.”

    My wife who is a saint and very patient encouraged me to do this enough times that it’s becoming a habit.

    • @[email protected]
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      820 days ago

      I’m so sick of my wife forgetting to do things (like take the medication that if she misses a dose it ruins her entire next day and sets off a ripple of migraines that can last a week) that I’ve just started stealing her phone to put in reminders.

      • @[email protected]
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        320 days ago

        If she has trouble remembering if she’s taken the meds, I highly recommend TimerCaps. They are a pill bottle lid that tells you how long it’s been since the bottle was opened.

        We have several at my house-- I can check and see if my partner has drugged the dog or if I’ve taken my ADHD meds. My partner can also see if I’ve taken my meds.

        • @[email protected]
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          319 days ago

          I’ll have to think about how those might fit for us or our pets.

          She doesn’t have issues remembering that she’s taken the meds, just remembering to take them. It’s very much an out of sight, out of mind thing.

  • @[email protected]
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    2020 days ago

    This is why I write important things on my hands directly.

    Currently my list is:

    Call the Doolor

    I’m sure I’ll figure out what the smudges are eventually

    • @[email protected]
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      920 days ago

      I use discord, its free. Made a server with only myself. I have so many channels that are all lists of things, a foods-I-like channel is helpful for when I am hungry but don’t remember what I like at the moment.

      • @[email protected]
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        520 days ago

        I have my own personal server as well. I send myself links all the time and it means I can upload 1 image and then just send the link around which is great for bad internet

  • @PugJesus
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    1321 days ago

    “I’ll remember”, I say, not because I’ll remember, but because any form of writing it down I will inevitably forget as well. I’m just trying to save myself pointless work, here.

  • @cmrn
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    1220 days ago

    Nothing is more frustrating than knowing you wrote something down, but not knowing where.

    • @RememberTheApollo_
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      1020 days ago

      Nothing is more frustrating than knowing you were supposed to write something down, then not remembering what that something was. Yet for some stupid reason you can remember you were going to write whatever it was down.

      • @[email protected]
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        420 days ago

        Yeah and you remember it while in the bus or the pool, where you can’t write it down anymore.

        • @RememberTheApollo_
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          420 days ago

          Yep, then you forget again before you can write it down.

          Like a memory whack-a-mole.

          • @[email protected]
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            319 days ago

            Yeah, the time to go the lost and it’s gone because something random grabbed you attention for a sec, like people passing in the street

    • @[email protected]
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      620 days ago

      Nothing is more frustrating than finding a note and wondering what it means or if you did it.

      • Unroll the car
      • Table Tablet - DO ASAP
      • Spaghetti bowl
  • @[email protected]
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    I tie this to my keys so it forces me to remember that there is something I needed to remember… Now if I could only remember what that thing was…

    (No that is not my carpet lol it’s shitty foam to protect parts put on it at my job)

  • @[email protected]
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    1120 days ago

    I have a whiteboard on my desk. It’s the only effective “to do” list I’ve found, for me. It’s covered in chicken scratching. I erase stuff as I do them.

  • @[email protected]
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    1120 days ago

    Where ADHD and SelfHosted combine: I self host Trilium Notes to attempt to solve this problem. Most of the time it works.

  • @[email protected]
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    1120 days ago

    For me, a proper reminder needs to have a property like physically preventing progress until I take care of the thing, or jumping up and demanding my attention until I take care of the thing.

    The most basic form is that if I need to do something tomorrow at noon, I don’t create a reminder. I create an alarm! And if the alarm goes off and the thing is not done, I snooze it instead of stop it.

  • Transporter Room 3
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    I put a small calendar whiteboard on my wall, and any important things go on that in big letters.

    Can’t not see it if it’s the first thing you look at upon waking up!

    I say, having walked past myself in the mirror without looking literally thousands of times…

  • @[email protected]
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    820 days ago

    Me leaving note for myself: I’ll get to this later.

    also me: What the fuck do these words mean?