Just back from dinner with the guy who organises the local Meetup dining group.
I’d dropped into the conversation when he invited me to a cafe that I wasn’t looking for a relationship right now, just to lay it on the table, then after some messaging that was pushing the boundaries and some blatantly flirtatious behaviour in front of others I had to have a stern talk of the You’re Making Me Uncomfortable Back Off variety.
So he walked me home, came in briefly to meet the cats and then I drove him home making it plain that I was just going to drop him home and run.
So what does he do? Ask me to stay the night!
Firstly NO, secondly I’ve never left the cats alone overnight and I’m not going to start now, thirdly I Told You I’m Not Interested Several Times Jesus Christ. 🤦🏻♀️ I think he’s more of a clueless scungie type - I know the breed from Uni God knows - but seriously, which part of I Am Not Interested does this guy not understand?He understands, he just doesn’t want to accept it. It’s not about swaying you it’s about making you so uncomfortable that you’ll say yes just to get it “over with”.
He doesn’t care about your feelings or consent. And do not let him into your house again.
This.
It is such a good idea to have your own transport arranged to get home
Hun. Not after a relationship. Just a root. Urrrt no. Kick.
No means yes or possibly yes to some people, no matter how clear you are.
No is yes because some men get off on non-consent as well. Ugh UGH
THIS.
be so careful
What is up with men who can’t take a hint? Unfortunately not uncommon with some meetup groups :(
He thought you’d be swayed by his confidence.
Yikes.
This guy was being wilfully oblivious, ignoring all boundaries and just trying to take advantage ⛳️
Maybe next time don’t ask boundary challenged guys in to meet the cats
Ugh I have no idea why you are downvoted - I agree wholeheartedly with this.
Do not allow men into your home who have already ignored your consent. Not victim blaming, but people perceived as women must be careful in today’s world what with the utter disrespect and violence towards AFABs/women/femmes.
exactly, don’t invite trouble in to your house
One good thing about being flooded is a double rainbow:
Double rainbow all the wayyyy 😭🌈🌈
What does this mean oh my god
I read recently that the double rainbow guy died but left a heap of footage to continue his YT channel which is still going four years after his death.
Double the jackpot at the end of the rainbow?
Long day… cranky… not a drop of moisture all day, but I just managed to miss the rain and got to come home to silky kitty and a bit of silliness (=much-needed energy expenditure) with the feather toy. Thank god I have food in the fridge… rest my tired soul with the sound of rain and a nourishing meal. I’m spent.
Tonight it’s singing practice. I cancelled my plans so I could have the evening to myself to get my voice back to a usable state.
I miss performing so much. I just love the vulnerability that you feel when you’re giving a part of yourself to strangers for a short while. Putting yourself out there.
Music had been such an important part of my life. Every step of the way music has kept me going when I felt I didn’t want to. I could always rely on making music for catharsis.
And I think that’s what makes it such an important part of my life. I feel like everything is bottled up unless I’m playing regularly.
/end over sharing rant
😭 we love you fluffybutt
Can I ask what your favourite song is to sing?
This one. I fucked up in the middle but it has the most meaning to me. https://on.soundcloud.com/hY4gZ
I was flash flooded down here on the bellarine. Holy fuck I’ve never seen rain like that. Every gutter was overflowing. Here was the start:
Been spending the last 2 hrs having an intimate conversation with a bucket. I have not seen this level of water down here before.
It was pissing down hard in Heidelberg but only for 20 minutes or so. It looked like the Bellarine and Mornington got all the extreme stuff.
Hope you don’t have much damage.
we had 10 drops and one flash of lightening
Whoop de doo… I knew I had it going well for a while, but just as I’m looking at having to drop my overall hours because I am simply not coping with doing it all and trying to finish degree, I get an email from the landlord about upping the rent to 550/week (15% increase).
Pour one out for me, this has just ruined my weekend. Landlords do be collecting more and more for adding zero value…
She’s said she’s open to negotiation but I really suck at working out a middle ground. Too many emotions. I’ll have to sleep on it. Why did she have to send this on a Friday night.
That’s a big pile of bumjuice.
I’m really glad the cat is here to help take the edge off the massive sads that are being cracked.
When you have the spoons, check similar to your housing in the area and whether it matches what they are proposing, if it is generally below their amount, you have some kind of negotiation power.
What’s for dinner, mum?
Poor man’s ceviche
aww, they are adorbs
They are!
Delicious!
They need to get a little bigger yet
Just had a company meeting about raises. I don’t quality because I just started, but they gave everyone:
2%
You should have seen everyone’s face. The mood in the meeting plummeted instantly.
I’m expecting some resignations in the next few weeks.
The beatings will continue until … every employee is 18 and doesn’t know any better
We love an effective pay cut
Exactly. I’m staying for 12 months and grabbing the certs I need then I’m out.
That’s barely covers inflation these days. It just make sure you’re taking home the same realised income as the year before
The only way to get a pay rise these days is jump ship, it seems. Unfortunately
That’s how it has become these days. Companies don’t invest in their people like they used to, so you have to become the master of your own career
100%. That’s worked for me whilst I’ve been in corporate.
I’m here for 12 months to up skill. If I get a real promotion and it’s equivalent pay rise, cool. If not, other plans will come into play.
Wow! And I used to get upset about my 5% yearly raise at my last job.
Fed the kitty this morning and we went back to bed, cuddling sweetly… she stretched her arm, dropped it and punctured a single secretly sharp claw into my eyelid like a fishhook.
After a delay of refusing to get up it was washed with antibacterial hand soap and dabbed with Betadine so fingers crossed. I have a spare box of antibiotics ready to go.
But yeah, that was literally half a centimetre from my actual eye.
Reaching out
Touching me, clawing youSweeeeet Mother of Jesus
Fuck fuck fuck 🎶🎶 Bedtimes never felt so sharp
My WhiteBoy used to wake us up by delicately inserting a single claw into a nostril
You can pick your nose but you can’t pick your alarm clock
Zelazny quote about many legged furry alarm clock
My dog was having cuddlyboos on my chest and he reached out and touched my bottom teeth with his nails. 🤮
That makes me feel sick because I can’t have anything go near my eye ( like I can’t wear contacts because I freak out about it )
My painful cat encounter story is, I was trying to save someone’s cat in a tree so I climbed way up and grabbed it.
It got scared and wriggled and thrashed around so much that it fell…almost. It managed to hook a single claw into my forearm and was just hanging there…stretching my skin.
I could only freak out and scream and shake it off. Of course it landed on its feet and just sauntered away.
It’s ok, it was just the top eyelid near my eyelashes. Nothing actually went in my eye.
Yup, they’ll do that. Cerys sliced my left nipple in half once.
Keep an eye on that shit. Uh. Pun unintended
I clip her claws but she always secretly sharpens just a single one so I don’t notice. It’s her stiletto.
Wondering about those colourful nail caps but they seem like they’d cause distress
Edit: And yes, I’m watching it because litterbox paws and will start the box of antibiotics that’s on hand if anything changes. It would be a nasty spot for an infection
Tbh i just gave up. It’s what happens when you live with a cat.
Considering sleeping with eye protection now
I feel like people’s behaviour has got a lot more out of line since the lockdowns. Just me?
spoiler
Lock down did a real number on people and we barely even acknowledge it anymore.
Theres a psychic wound that was inflicted on a lot of people.
I think it changed a lot of people.
FEAR grief and anger
I am the great cornholio! I need tp for my bunghole.
And it isn’t just you, people are just that much more inconsiderate. I blame lockdowns, but also the general state of the world right now - wars, rescinding rights, needless death, no ability to buy a house, pollies are landlords and two faced scum, far right bullshit, climate change… I can understand people reacting with general disrespect when it doesn’t feel like this world will last, and we suffer.
But I also believe in times like these, we have MORE of a duty to be kind to one other, to show compassion and grace. And that is severely lacking within the general population. Their attitudes compound upon the state of the world and just hurt us even more than we already are.
It would be nice to be kind… but I’ve found people are just getting more predatory and boundary stomping to the point I’m forced to be hostile to protect myself. :(
Absolutely, and it’s painful to do because it goes against our personalities and our very nature as human beings. Empathy and compassion is sacrificed for survival.
I have hope kindness and love will prevail, but our suffering in the meantime is wearing on me.
Congratulations Mumma and Pappa Peregrine Falcon on the safe arrival of chicky no.3 only minutes ago. Cheers 🍺
However some of youse here have disappointed me greatly today. Lucky I don’t hold a grudge. Cheers 🍺
What have I done now 🥺
Nothing. You’re lovely the way you are. ♥
And the chick’s are a lovely fluffy grey. Much like the white tshirts of most of the dt.
Oh bang! Spot on sista!
Haha I came here to make sure you knew! So cute
Yeah I watched it being hatched on the big screen. A bit of pre game entertainment.
Dad just came back with a food hamper.
Today is reports day. Excel and PowerBI can fuck right off lol
1 down, 4 to go!
shudders in solidarity
Well that’s a first. Found a stick insect on my subwoofer. I don’t think I’ve actually seen one before in the wild:
It has been put back outside on a tree. But glad to see there’s another real junglist saying wicked.
This most definitely calls for a rave choon:
Considering it was on the subby… Suicide bassline!
Looks like a rude boy with long limb by limbs.
I removed the work profile and applications from my phone.
Not anymore guys. No thank you.
But what about your grindset?
i cri evrytiem
I have absolutely no idea what I want for dinner
Eggs on toast.
in this economy?
Eggs are the new avo
Hash brown and pizza.
Hot chips
Quick n dirty cupboard pasta with lots of cheese
