Needed a follow up for people that answered yes, “did you realize it before, during, or later? If later, how much later?” Young people are oblivious to their own feelings and the feelings of others. According to the down-votes, are trans women supposed to be the exception or something?

It’s a bad question.

Have you ever had a sexual experience with someone else who did not want the experience?

And you knew that they didn’t want it? This doesn’t include consensual nonconsent, such as roleplaying an abduction.

People have consensual sex with their partners even if they aren’t interested because their partner wants to and even though they don’t want to, they’re okay with their partner getting off. That is not sexual assault, that is just how some relationships go.

“Didn’t want it” is not the same as “didn’t consent.”