For those of you who do not know a Himedanshi (“Princess Boy”) is a Japanese slang term for male fans of yuri media. Some himedanshis enjoy yuri so much that they only exclusively read yuri hentai doujinshi and fantasize about being one of the anime women eating out or kissing the other anime women but have no desire at all to ever transition into a woman. While some himedanshi do eventually become trans women and are now Himejoshi ("Princess Girl)

So my question to you is do think himedanshis are weirdos and perverts or no?

  • @indomara
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    77 days ago

    There are so many fetishes and sexual quirks that exist out there, some more niche than others. With very few exceptions I do not think those that enjoy them are weirdos or perverts.

  • @[email protected]
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    57 days ago

    They are not weirdos or perverts. It may be that everyone is somewhere on the gender fluid spectrum.

  • aguyinheat
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    36 days ago

    as a transgender person (man, specifically), i always wonder about the ostensibly cisgender people who make their enjoyment of opposite/same sex media their identity (so, basically, fujoshi and himedanshi)

    no one is saying you can’t enjoy a good love story / dirty story / whatever between two people of the opposite and same sex, but the weird part to me is where it becomes a part of your identity

    like, before i knew i was trans, for a period of time when i was younger, i found myself really into a gay ship in a popular media. and i enjoyed it for a bit and then i was like, i don’t really know why it was so compelling, but i thought it would be kind of weird to like, get really into it (as a woman, or so i thought at the time). so i dropped it and moved on with my life and found plenty of het pairings that i could see myself in, and it was fine

    then i transitioned a decade later and i look back on it and go “oh”, and now i understand why that gay ship was so compelling

    so i mean, that’s my lived experience. and you don’t need to justify or explain your lived experience to anyone, least of all me, some random internet fucko

    but i am curious what you find so compelling about the dynamics between two women that your consumption of yuri media merits identifying yourself as such (by this i mean, you like it so much you call yourself, literally, himedanshi)

    as a gay man, i certainly read plenty of boy’s love stories, and it has not escaped my attention that many of the authors are women. but i also read a decent chunk of girl’s love comics and even a handful of more normative straight romance comics, the handful that establish a deeper connection between their lead couple than “he’s a man and she’s a woman and they fuck, duh”

    but even for the boy’s love stuff, i feel like it’s not a huge part of my identity (i mean, maybe because there’s not a special word for “guy into gay media”, but even then, i don’t think i’d use it more than casually)

    anyways, those are my thoughts. but in reality, fuck what i or anyone else thinks, you do you, make you happy, life is too short not to

    • @[email protected]OP
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      36 days ago

      The reason why I love yuri so much that I feel the need to call myself a himedanshi is simply because two women kissing eachother and eating eachother out is the hottest thing in the world in my opinion

      • aguyinheat
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        35 days ago

        ok so, is sex such a big part of your identity that it warrants taking the name of the thing you think is the hottest? and like, if that’s the case, do you feel no grief about the idea that you can’t directly participate in what you view as the hottest thing in the world?

        • @[email protected]OP
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          25 days ago

          Sex is always in my mind every day and I have absolutely no grief at all in not being able to participate in lesbian sex. Because I just love reading yuri hentai doujinshis, and watch japanese lesbians porn because lesbian sex/yuri is just the hottest thing in the world in my opinion