• @[email protected]
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    362 days ago

    I got the impression that you cared equally about each woman in the facility and what each woman was going through, regardless of her reasons for choosing the procedure. I have never met a group of purely non-judgmental people like yourselves.”

    Now crying as I have met many medical people that don’t act like that but it is good to read that. I needed to read that.

    • chingadera
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      332 days ago

      I don’t cry every single time I read this, so just shut up okay

      "I was born into a very Catholic family, and was politically pro-life during college. After dating my first real boyfriend for three years, we broke up, and the day my boyfriend moved out, I discovered I was pregnant. It was an agonizing decision, and something I never thought I would do, but I decided an abortion was the only realistic option. Thanks to Planned Parenthood counseling, I worked through some very tough conflicts within myself. I had to learn that my decision was a loving one. That ‘my god’ was actually a loving and supportive god. And that men don’t have to make this decision, only women do. That it is a very personal, individual decision. I had to own it. I became much more compassionate towards myself and others as a result of my experience. Two years later I began medical school. When it came time to choose a practice, an abortion clinic opportunity came up. In working there, I began to feel that this was my calling. Having been in my patients’ shoes, and coming from an unforgiving background, I could honestly say to patients, ‘I know how you feel.’ Deciding to have an abortion was THE hardest decision I’ve ever made in my life. Yet it has brought me the greatest transformation, fulfillment, and now joy. I am a more loving person because of it, and a better doctor for having experienced it. I love the work that I do, and the opportunity to support women seeking to end an unwanted pregnancy. My patients and my work are life’s gifts to me, and I think my compassion and support are my gifts in return.”

      Why can’t more people be like this woman?

      • @topherclay
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        242 days ago

        Why can’t more people be like this woman?

        Well, that seems to miss the point entirely right? Like if more people were exactly like this woman then they would still be just as anti as they are now. The only thing that made this woman be more compassionate was when it became a problem she dealt with herself.

        Either you’d have to ask “why can’t more people also deal with this problem personally?” or better yet

        “Why can’t more people be BETTER than this woman?”

        • chingadera
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          92 days ago

          This article is about how women deal with their own beliefs/morals/views against their own reality.

          She did it as gracefully as she could within those parameters.

          It would take you a year to find 10 people with the same ability to introspect and correct this type of behavior and conditioned thought, if you even found them.

          If people changing their views to accept more people is not a win, why convince them or attempt to in the first place?

          • @[email protected]
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            52 days ago

            You dont each them so they can claim to be a “good person”

            You teach them so they stop harrassing actual good people and stop teaching their children evil shit

            If you have to be personally effected to realise something is bad, you are a piece of shit. Hands down. With that reasoning altruism simply wouldnt exist.

            • chingadera
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              |You dont each them so they can claim to be a “good person”

              You teach them so they stop harrassing actual good people and stop teaching their children evil shit

              It’s not about allowing them to claim it, it’s about having experiences that teach you empathy. You aren’t born with it and neither are they.

              You have had experiences that have led you to having empathy about that subject before they did. But guess what, if that person is able to recognize their faults and go forward with empathizing with that thing, they’re likely to apply that same thinking to other matters just like you did.

        • SharkEatingBreakfast
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          God forbid that people grow to change their views.

          She escaped a mindset she was taught when she was young. I was taught to hate gay folks, abortions, etc. Typical Christian upbringing. Then all my best friends in high school were queer and I was like “so what else was I taught incorrectly?”

          No one is born perfect. Glad she grew to change and now supports others in these tough situations.

          • HobbitFoot
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            82 days ago

            It is good that she changed her belief, but if everyone was like her, we would need a lot more abortions to get people to change their mind.

            • chingadera
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              42 days ago

              Y’all are sticking onto abortion having to be the center of the behavior this woman exhibited. This same line of thinking could and should be applied to any other model of beliefs.

              • HobbitFoot
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                72 days ago

                No. I’m sticking to requiring someone to have to experience something to have empathy for someone else.

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                  Everyone has blindspots dude, that was hers. Empathy is a learned behavior.

        • @Feathercrown
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          This is true, but some people don’t change even after dealing with the problem personally.

          • chingadera
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            32 days ago

            And that is exactly why I’m talking about this woman, she made a conscious decision to be better, and that is something to celebrate.

  • @[email protected]
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    Love this post and read it several times.

    Never fails to remind me of the conservative selfishness and shortsightedness that it’s only a problem when it directly affects them.

    Have some compassion and empathy for your fellow human.