The loving dominant was a good read. Depending on your interest s there is a ton out there.

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also, FetLife is a nice community. it’s not a dating site, but a social media for kink. there are groups, events, post threads, you can share art, pics, writings, etc. they have a biiiig dictionary for all the terms i don’t know haha and users make lots of guides about ethics, consent, and i have read good debates too.