Literally had several doctors throughout growing up tell my dad my brain is fucked and doesn’t work like he wants it to cause heckin ADHD or whatever.
Everytime my dad was sure I was full of shit and, “just not trying hard enough to remember things or do things, etc”
Some people just aren’t maleable enough to adapt their world view when presented with information that contradicts their preconceived assumptions and biases.
That “just not trying hard enough” hits so much harder because you are trying your heart out and dealing with the frustration of not seeing results AND having someone belittle your efforts.
- “You just don’t care enough about it”
- “Just use a planner, what’s so hard about it?”
- “Write a to-do list”
- “You have to actively want to remember. If you don’t give a shit, of course you will forget it!”
- “You just need to try harder.”
- “Stop getting distracted so easily.”
- “You’re just lazy.”
- “Can’t you just sit still for once?”
- “Everyone procrastinates, you’re not special.”
- “You need to stop being so impulsive.”
- “Why can’t you just focus?”
- “Your problem is a lack of discipline.”
And my absolute favorite which someone actually said to me:
“All of your problems stem from not living your life in a rational way.”
These people live life on easy mode and look down on us who never had a chance to practice and were thrown into insane mode right from the start.
or “why can’t you just finish one job/task (at a time)”
For me if it is really important to remember, I write it on my hand because I won’t lose it or not look at a note pad for a week. If I do lose it, I have bigger problems to deal with than what was written on my hand.
Also need to remember to write it on my hand in the first place.
I did think of that. I just forgot…
