Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT, 😁!

We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same. Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

  • Drusas@fedia.io
    5·
    1 month ago

    Both times I’ve started to stop drinking, my partner has encouraged me to drink…while later bitching at me for drinking.

    • RayquetzalcoatlEnglish
      4·
      1 month ago

      Very difficult. I’m sorry to hear that.

      In previous years, I would stay sober from New Year’s Day to late April (my bday). I had a partner who wanted to do it with me one year. Obviously I said she absolutely did not have to, but could if she wanted.

      We got a few days into January and she said she would actually only do Dry January. Totally cool with that, and I was supportive of her efforts. She drank a couple of days later.

      Then she started taking me to her friends’ parties and getting absolutely shitfaced. I had to spend multiple evenings unable to communicate with her because she was hammered, and unable to communicate with her friends because they were very cliquey. Then she’d get refused service or asked to leave the bar, so I’d have to take her home and it was just like… Sort of a massive waste of time? 😂

      It was a hard time. I find it difficult when my partner, the person who is supposed to be on my side, seems to not want to help themselves and seem to actively work against me when I’m on a difficult journey already. No issue with a partner drinking when I’m sober - but it just felt like we were on very different paths.

      She dumped me, eventually, not over the sobriety (I was back to drinking heavily by that point anyway), but I was slightly relieved. It hurt, obviously, but I felt much more free to pursue sobriety after that. Like I said, our paths were very different. Despite how much it hurt at the time, we were clearly not a good fit foundationally.

      I wish you the best of luck! Have you spoken to her about your feelings?