It’s true that every family is unique, but I’ve noticed that in many Chinese families especially among older generations, mental health struggles are often brushed off as just “personality quirks” or even weaknesses.

If your parents have spent time in western cultures, their views might be more open-minded, but it sounds like they still hold onto some traditional beliefs. That can make things even harder when you’re trying to talk about what you’re going through.

Have you looked into local support groups or communities where you can connect with others who understand what you’re experiencing? Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone and having a safe space to share can make a difference.

My father has no idea what mental health is about and says a lot of insensitive and crass things whenever news about suicide comes up. It can be really jarring and hard to listen to for me personally.

But I try my best to sympathize and try to think about the environment he grew up in (Vietnam War and all). I’ve come to terms that I will never get support from him on this topic. Maybe some day things can change, but it would take a lot of work.

Hopefully you are able to find something to help as mental health is so important. Take care of yourself.