Hello there! My wife and I are a trans + cis lesbian couple. Our son (2) has always known us as his moms, and uses “she” for both of us. Lately, he’s heard a lot of talk about other kid’s moms and dads at daycare, and has started trying to use that same language at home.
That isn’t preferred of course; we do our best to remind him that he has two moms, but being a toddler he’s noticed that he gets extra attention when he uses that word, so that’s fun!
I’m not too worried about how we’ll handle that, it’s just going to take time. What I’m wondering is if this is something cis gay/lesbian couples experience? Like, your child becomes aware of the categories of “mom” and “dad”, and tries to fit both parents into those categories? I’d like to think that it can happen to cis queer couples as well, but it could also just be since I am trans.
We did but our kid had other friends in daycare with 2 dads or 2 moms. We did have to have conversations about body hair and length of head hair not being a gender binary. I’m trans as well and my ex is cis, my daughter actually told my ex she was going boy hair under her arms once and thats what brought it up.
I would find queer kids media for them to watch or br read to so they can see how others live.